Throwing in the towel

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Throwing in the towel
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 12:17am
I'm done dating. I wear my heart on my sleeve and just when I thought I've met a good guy, someone decent and honest, it's like my heart gets ripped out and stomped on and you would think it would get easier but I'm finding that it's harder and harder every time. I'm beginning to wonder if the idea of happily ever after is even worth all of this pain right now.
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Registered: 09-27-2004
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 12:28am
Yes, it was the military guy, thanks for asking. I'm kind of heartbroken since it only happened last week, but hopefully will get through it soon enough. I knew in my heart of all hearts that it wouldn't last most likely because of him moving around so much but I really liked him a lot and cared about him and I don't think he felt the same way about me (or at least he never said he did) which makes it harder to handle. At least I know that now though and can move on and it's probably for the best so I wouldn't have to be a military gf. But still, no break up is easy and it just gets you more discouraged. I'm hoping to heal my heart and get back out there again though becuase you are right, no one should give up and we should have hope. We all go through times where we feel like giving up for good but hopefully it's only phases.
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Registered: 11-17-2004
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 8:13am
I just wanted to thank everyone for all of your kind words and support. I'm doing a lot better today then I was the other night, and I've decided that for now, I'm just backing off and letting him come to me. If he wants to see me and spend time with me, then he will need to make an effort. As for me, well, I'm pretty much done. I just posted an update on the situation. I'm just confused but I'm actually getting braces in a couple of weeks (woohoo!) so I've decided that while I adjust to having the new hardware, I'm going to take some time to work on ME.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 11:23am

Every break up is hard, and I agree with a previous poster that it gets harder as we get older.

It sounds like you made the best decision for you, though, so that's great.

Hang in there. HUGS.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-29-2005
Wed, 08-09-2006 - 10:40am
This too shall pass. I know it sounds so much easier than it is to say you will be OK and to move on. Try not to give up hope on what you want. I recently went through a similar experience, a guy i was seeing seemed really nice and genuine and in the end he just stopped calling. It is hard to get over that initial rejection no matter how many times you tell yourself it is his loss. In then end he probably wasn't really a serious contender to be your mate. I think us as women tend ot put a lot more clout on a relationship that may not be the right fit for us solely for the reason we want a relationship. This isn't good enough of a reason to settle for someone that isn't the best for you. Once you put yourself in a position of despair it is hard to turn that around. The most important part is to stay positive and realize that there is love out there, and you deserve it as well.
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Registered: 12-17-2005
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:56am
My goal for now is just to date good guys, if any exist. Divorced for 12 yrs, and really one serious relationship that I am glad didn't work out. I've done a lot of soul searching and read several self-help books. I used to wear my heart on my sleeve but now nobody sees my heart. lol I doubt I will ever marry, just want to date a nice guy for now. So many guys I have met have had issues that I don't want any part of, or they do drugs, or have a drinking problem, or they are married/separated. I feel I'm too good for any of them anyway. lol

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