Tiny little things

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Tiny little things
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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 8:08pm
I hate that the smallest things can become a turnoff so easily. I'm trying to get past this one, but given that it may not matter, I'm not sure I'm going to try that hard!

The tiny thing...things...are a hat and a last name. I found the ex-military guy on facebook. For once, my...investigating...paid off. His last name is the same as the bar owner that closed the place I loved to sing at. Once I saw the name, I saw the resemblance. There is no way they aren't closely related- probably brothers. The bar owner is not one of my favorite people. We have been patrons of his businesses (he owns two bars) for four years now and he's never once said hello. He'd talk to everyone in the bar but us. He's also done some pretty crappy stuff to my DJ friend that tells me he's not a very respectable business man. So my thought is...would I want to date his brother?

The second thing...he was wearing a fedora in his profile picture. After seeing that, I'm not so sure he's even straight! He was even trying to give the camera a little pose in it. It was just not attractive!

Oh, how I wish the little things didn't bother me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 8:26pm

Are you sure it's his brother & not a cousin or something?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 9:06pm
I don't know. They really have a strong resemblance. I look like my cousins, though, so it could be.

Maybe the picture was just him goofing off and he thinks it's funny and doesn't realize it makes him look gay. Yeah... That's what I'm going with.

On another note...I found out last night that my Thursday karaoke night has been restored! Same DJ, different place. At least for now, that is. I suppose if fedora boy shows up there, it'll be a chance to observe him some more. I've never seen him flirt with a woman ( except me, and only a little) but I've never watched how he interacts with men.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:37pm

1. Chic guys wear fedoras - it's perhaps a bit to metrosexual for your neck o' the woods, but here it's very hip.

2. I am nothing like my brothers in many ways, and just like them in others.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:38pm

1. Chic guys wear fedoras - it's perhaps a bit to metrosexual for your neck o' the woods, but here it's very hip.

2. I am nothing like my brothers in many ways, and just like them in others.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:58pm
Or if he turns out to be gay. I've had crushes on married men (before I knew), men with girlfriends (before I knew), men with crushes on my friends, men who didn't want me at all, men who just wanted sex...but I don't think any of them were ever gay.

The truth is that sometimes I do think I'm more afraid of the guy returning interest, falling for him, and then getting dumped again than I am of initial rejection. Most men will return advances whether they are interested or not. They don't usually stick around for long, though.