Told an older man what I think

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Told an older man what I think
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Thu, 06-12-2008 - 11:30am

Just wanted to share, you can tell me what you think if you disagree.


Recently I got an email from a what appears to be, an attractive older man. I am 41, he is 57.


I sent him a note telling him he was out of my age range.


Basically I said this:

Soliel

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 12:06pm

I actually have the same feelings about older men/younger women. Just my personal opinion and I would not date an older man either. Just not interested.


I always thought it was funny... the guys who say things like "Age is just a number" wouldn't consider dating an OLDER woman. So why is that if "age was just a number?" (lol)


And THAT's why I don't date older guys.


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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 12:07pm

Eww. You're entitled to your opinion on anything. But personally, I don't share it at all.


I like older men, always have. It's not a requirement, I just like them better. They seem less earnest about things.


Anyone can die at anytime, so him being older or not, doesn't make a difference about who could live longer. I could get cancer & die at 40 & bf could live to 90. No one can say.


I don't feel 31 & bf doesn't seem like 46, age

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 12:12pm

I think it's great that you were blunt. I wish women my age would be like that instead of things like "We need to take a break" or "it's not you, it's me."

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 12:21pm

I agree with you on the older man/younger woman thing.

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Registered: 10-06-2004
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 12:41pm

I have to say I share your sentiments about the older men/younger women thing, although I would probably just have turned him down politely without going into detail.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 2:02pm

It's Okay Ms. Tulip. I am not looking for agreement, just thoughts. But I do want to add a bit to your post.


I don't feel 31 & bf doesn't seem like 46, age

Soliel
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 2:10pm

Just to clarify for everyone.


It's not that I am not attracted to older men who keep themselves up, I definitely have been and could be.

Soliel
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 2:27pm

While I do agree there are troll-types out there who think they can get younger and attractive women, I pretty much disagree with a lot of your post.


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Registered: 07-20-2006
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 2:47pm

I think you're reading a bit too much into this. Why shouldn't he contact you, you don't have to respond if you don't like him? If this was your first/only interaction with him I see no reason for you to be so judgemental.


Also, for the record I think it is more selfish to have kids that you don't want or might not be around for than it is for someone to be open to having kids when they really don't think it's the right thing to do.

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 2:49pm

Women NEVER do this...or they are very very tentative because they have

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