Too clingy

I think for the time being it's about acting "as if" - our feelings are our feelings - we have the choice as to how to react. I think it is healthy not to talk every day even to a serious boyfriend - healthy to miss each other - if you call someone because you need assurance - once in a blue moon is one thing - meaning - once in two months or more, - but if more than that - what a turn off, at least to me. I can hear it in the voice and it scares me. Sure - calling just to say hi if you haven't spoken in a day or so - that's great - keep it short - two minutes - but subjecting a man to your need for reassurance - well, that's not fair, is it? Call your girlfriends when you have that urge and never tell him about that - no I do not believe that honesty in a relationship requires spilling your guts - honesty means when you choose to speak it is honest - a man doesn't need to know if you are insecure where he can do nothing to change it - meaning - if there is something specific he did or did not do then you approach it as the example - as in "when you don't call when you say you will, I get upset." But if you need someone to call you three times a day and to reassure you all the time - that's just not his obligation even if you're married - that's just my personal opinion. and a man who would go along with that - i would have to wonder about his emotional stability.

So, while you seek outside counseling or do inner work - act "as if" - do not give in to your insecurities or your "need" for a man in your life as opposed to a desire coming from stability and independence. These are just my thoughts - I know I come across "direct" and strong but I have been out there for a long time, know exactly how you feel and that probably affects my "tone" - best of luck to you!!