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| Mon, 05-22-2006 - 1:07pm |
Allright, what's up ya'll? There is a guy that I am interested in, but there is a problem. Yea, he is my boss. However, I'm not even thinking of asking him out NOW. He has told me many times recently that he is going to be leaving for a career change soon, if he gets the job he applied for. Even then, he said he is going to be leaving. I was going to WAIT until he leaves to ask him out. The problem is that things are getting very frustrating at work for me and at sometimes, I can sense it for him. The way I mean is that because I can't flirt and I can't ask him out, which is what I would normally do, I become very tense around him and frustrated. Yesterday, for the first time, I felt the tension between us and I don't like it very much, in fact, I think he is upset now also. You feel like you are handcuffed and you can't be you. I think I need to relax, but at the same time, I do want him to know I am interested, should I just tell him anyway?
The other problem is that if I don't let him know what is up, by the time he has left the company, he may given up on the idea that I am interested. There are a lot of little restrictions in this situation and it is becoming very frustrating that I am starting to feel like, "Oh f&#$ it!" I do think I pissed him off yesterday and I am bummed about that. I don't know if thinks I am NOT interested in him because of something that happened yesterday. It's just so hard working in a restaurant and trying to get to know someone and them get to know you, so I need help with being able to show interest in this situation (for when he does leave) without putting him in a bad position as a manager.
I appreciate any advice. Yea, he is not the only fish in the sea, but right now, I am pretty attracted to him physically and personality wise. Also, I'm pretty positive he is interested, I just don't know what to do about that. There is also another question. I saw a book at Barnes & NOble that I wanted to get him ($4.98, really nice book though, on sale) about knives, but is this too forward? He is always giving things to me and bringing in things for me. I know he would really enjoy this book.

I'm sorry, it wasn't clear to me from your post...how do you know he's interested in YOU romantically? I think if he were, he'd TELL you so and let you know that as soon as he leaves, he'll ask you out.
I think it would be embarrassing to jump the gun if he's NOT interested (if he sees you as a friend), and put you in a really awkward position.
Unless you've turned him down, or talked about another guy you're dating in front of him or something like that, then he has no reason to think you're NOT interested, so I wouldn't worry about that.
Sheri