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| Thu, 06-08-2006 - 4:40pm |
Hi Ladies I have a question .I am back on the dating seen again. I’m 22 a senior in College(accounting& finance major). I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 and 1/2 years. Going back to the dating seen left me a little confused. I noticed that girls at clubs and bars were more interested in guys that had jobs even if the were low paying and there own place then a college student that was making no money living at home but had a bright future. My friends explained to me that most girls would rather date a poor construction worker ( no offense my father is one) making $29,000 a year rather than a medical school student making no money. Is this true? Will things change once I graduate and get a great job? What should I do about this? Thank you..

Wow if that isn't one of the most grossly exaggerated generalizations - I don't know what is!
So you're telling me EVERY girl you have met or will meet, is more interested in an independent slacker than someone on his way to being successful!? And do you really believe THOSE are the criteria that make or break it? How many girls have walked up to you and said "hi I'm Cheery - do you live at home? and how much money do you make?" ummm no... usually both of those things come some time AFTER - an interest! and a little small talk so... sounds like you are just trying to find an excuse to hide behind.
Jumping back into the dating world IS hard and scary... but you HAVE to stay away from generalizations and negative thinking or you'll scare yourself right back into ex's arms!
Please understand - I'm not being mean (I promise I'm not) I'm just sarcastic and trying to help you see it from a different angle!
And FYI - all this coming from someone who didn't take her own advice! But I do believe it!
Give yourself time... hit on a girl that isn't someone you'd normally hit on (maybe it's the type of girl you go after!?)... and most importantly... THINK POSITIVE!!! Good luck!
I agree those are generalizations, and you need to stay away from people who generalize and put you into a category. Look for a girl who's interested in who you really are, your aspirations and dreams as well as where you are today. In other words, interested in you as a person and not as a job and a salary.
Yeah it kind of is true, depending on the type of women you're hitting on.
If you're hitting on the shallow, not much between the ears but spectacularly attractive hotties - then, yeah - that's going to matter a lot.
If you're hitting on normal women who are in the same situation YOU are, then there's more to this than surface value.
It's sort of like when guys say they can't "see" our personality. We can't "see" your bright future. Because in the here and now, you're a student and live at home.
(Just so you know - you're in the right. You should be pursuing your education. Maybe you're pursuing the wrong women.)
It depends on the woman you're hitting on.