Two guys at the same time?
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| Sun, 08-27-2006 - 2:53pm |
For the first time in my life, I'm doing this, and part of me feels a little weird, but the bigger part of me says that people do it all the time nowadays, and it's not hurting anyone, so why not?
GuyA is a guy I knew in high school that I've recently reconnected with on mySpace. He lives in a different state, but we've met up twice in the last 4 months back home where our families are, and have plans to meet up 2 or 3 more times in the next 4 months. He's busy with his career, and doesn't have time for a girlfriend, especially a long distance one, although he's very honest about having feelings for me, and doesn't discount a future for us.
GuyB is a guy I met thru online dating about 6 weeks ago that lives in my city. We got really close really quickly over the phone, and we don't bullsh** around and play games. We've been out 3 times, and have contact a few times a week. We both want the same things in a relationship, and it seems that we could be good together, but he also is very busy with working fulltime at one job, and part time at another which he is trying to get off the ground as his own business, and his daughter that lives an hour away that he sees every other full weekend and every Sunday. He also doesn't discount a future for us, but last night, we did have the conversation where he said that I seemed to want more than he could give me right now at this moment in time.
So, I'm casual with both of these guys, because neither one is ready to be with me 100% and call me a girlfriend. And yes, I'm sleeping with both of them, safely, but as of yet, not getting too emotionally hung up on either one because of that physical closeness, but that could always change.
Like I said, I've never dated two guys at once, let alone been sleeping with both of them, so this is odd territory for me. I'm 28, and have been divorced, and also have always been a "relationship" kind of girl. I can see at this point in time, an equal chance of a future with both of them, which is why I'm not getting rid of one or the other. Plus, I'm not even getting a full-time relationship if I add both of them together!
Neither one knows about each other, and neither one impacts the other in any way...basically, it's keeping me from getting too involved and falling in love with one before he's ready and getting my heart broken.
Has anyone else done this that could give me some advice, info, pointers, etc? I'm OK with doing it for now, since it's only been a few months, but I'm sure my feelings will change in some way for one of them in a few more months...and what will happen then?
