Ugh :P

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Ugh :P
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Sun, 09-23-2012 - 1:52am
Today has been rough. My "best" friend and I had plans for her to come over my house for lunch, but she was supposed to get back to me on the time and other details. I never heard from her. She has blown me off the last 3 times we tried to get together, and there were other issues I won't go into here, so this morning I ended our friendship. Then tonight I went to a birthday party of another friend, and I was feeling lonely so I dressed up, hoping to meet someone. But everyone at the party was either married or gay. I ended up drinking too much and leaving early to go home and wallow. I'm in the mood where I want to text every ex and tell him off. At least I didn't drink enough to do that. I did type one text, but I stopped myself right before hitting send. Ha, is it sad that I consider that evidence of my growth? Six months ago I wouldn't have been able to stop myself. Little steps of progress, I guess. I think I've been single for waaaay to long - it's making me crazy and bitter. I think I need some single friends my own age, but their hard to find. It's not like I can put a profile online or pick one up in a bar. How does one find friends as an adult, anyway?
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In reply to: HthrWhtvr
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 6:41pm

Smart people are stupid in real ways.   Not ALL.

The hospital I work in has a college attatched.    I have seen so many really smart people ask the  most stupid questions.

It makes me laugh.   I aprreciate that fact they are on a diff level of intelligence that I am but some of the stuff they say entertains us for days.

Intellectual is good....I am not a stupid person, I work the job I do because I took a different path (hey, I am not MENSA materiall) but I do enjoy listening to smart people asking stupid questions.

High IQ doesn't always meet reality in pretty ways.  :smileywink:

 

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In reply to: jilliansway
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 5:47pm
I don't know why, but I love going to restaurants alone. Ever since high school it's been something I do pretty often, even when I'm in a relationship. I've never given any thought as to what other people thought about me. I doubt if anyone is looking at me or cares in the slightest why I'm alone. I just like being alone sometimes. I haven't traveled by muself in a long time but when I have in the past I really enjoyed it. I could go wherever I wanted, do whatever I wanted. Not have to worry about anyone else being bored. Stay up late and sleep in late. Plus it's so much less expensive than going with your family or SO.
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In reply to: musiclover12
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 6:54pm

If go you with a friend & share a room, it's a lot less expensive than paying for the whole hotel room by yourself. 

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In reply to: jilliansway
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 8:38pm
While that is true, when you go by yourself only one airline ticket is needed and only one person is eating, paying admission to museums, etc. Not only that but you don't have to worry about anyone else's schedule or whether they have enough money at the time to go.
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In reply to: gleannfia
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 9:35pm

I am with you, but it took me until my mid-thirties-early 40s to get there.  But I love it. To be mostly free of inhibitions.

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In reply to: jilliansway
Sat, 09-29-2012 - 2:44pm
I've just never been a super social person. I don't dislike being with my close friends and family but I am very comfortable being alone too.
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In reply to: cfk_3
Sun, 09-30-2012 - 11:30am

I don't quite see the point of going to dinner alone unless one doesn't cook or doesn't like to go to the grocery store. I go out to dinner to catch up with friends or loved ones. I can cook for myself. I guess I don't understand why someone would choose to go a restaurant alone, again, unless it's out of necessity.

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In reply to: jilliansway
Sun, 09-30-2012 - 11:45am
Lots of reasons. I don't particularly like to cook. Sometimes I like trying new types of food, like Afghani or Ethiopian. I have a lot of favorite restaurants too that have favorite dishes that I either couldn't or wouldn't make at home. It's as good as any other excuse to get out of the house for a while. Cooking for one is not the easiest thing in the world unless you like eating the same thing all the time. Sometimes it's nice to have a bowl of soup or a slice of pie without committing to a whole pot of soup or entire pie. Sometimes it's nice to have someone else do the dishes. Etc.
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In reply to: cfk_3
Sun, 09-30-2012 - 1:32pm
I get it, I do but I don't think I'm alone in associating eating out with socializing.
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In reply to: musiclover12
Sun, 09-30-2012 - 1:36pm

Sometimes restaurants will have a type of food that you don'tknow how to cook, for ex, I like to eat Chinese food but I don't know how to cook it (except for a simple stir fry).  I also don't really like to cook just for myself.  And I like getting out of the house--sometimes even if I'm not with someone, just going to a place where there are other people around makes me feel less lonely--but it could have the opposite effect sometimes too.