Unrealistic Expectations?

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marina90292
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Unrealistic Expectations?
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 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:45am

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shywon
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 8:22am

I think there are princes.

musiclover12
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:31am

I think I gave up on looking for princes long ago.

floridagirl52
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:10pm

Before I married at 29, I would think from time to time of being rescued by a prince. But I had always worked and knew how to take care of myself. When I got divorced 4 years later, I got even smarter about taking care of myself (e.g. really figuring out how to save for retirement). I no longer thought of rescue by a man, but rescue by me.

At this stage of my life, I am preparing for the possibility of never finding a man to spend my life with.

sireanita
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Registered: 09-12-2005
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:35pm

I'm also very independent and a "Prince" to me is not someone who saves me from my misery, but someone who treats me like a princess lol. And while I need to admire him for something, he might be considered as ordinary by others or even by himself.

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cfk_3
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Fri, 03-02-2012 - 4:18pm
I think everyone has an inner super hero. Some just don't know it yet. Some know it, but haven't the gumption to use their powers to their fullest potential. This applies to love, just as it does every day life, in my humble opinion.
gleannfia
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Sat, 03-03-2012 - 5:53pm
gleannfia
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Sat, 03-03-2012 - 5:56pm
floridagirl52 wrote:

Before I married at 29, I would think from time to time of being rescued by a prince. But I had always worked and knew how to take care of myself. When I got divorced 4 years later, I got even smarter about taking care of myself (e.g. really figuring out how to save for retirement). I no longer thought of rescue by a man, but rescue by me.

At this stage of my life, I am preparing for the possibility of never finding a man to spend my life with.

xxxs
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:25pm

Hi

The only security lies within yourself.


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mhash
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Mon, 03-05-2012 - 11:11pm

I think there is a difference between looking for an idealized partner and someone with certain key qualities, i.e. must haves like a certain income level.

I believe there are so many combinations of qualities, variables, traits, characteristics, and unknowns that if I am focused on a set, rigid, idealized type/image then I would miss the delight of discovering who the person is, their uniqueness.

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mhash
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Re: Unrealistic Expectations?
 Wed, 03-07-2012 - 9:28pm
Stop Looking for a Soul Mate if You Want to Find Real Love

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