Unrealistic Expectations?

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Unrealistic Expectations?
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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:45am

This is not about blame.

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Registered: 03-08-2012
Thu, 03-08-2012 - 1:30am

I do believe that they exist in a way...sort of what someone has said already.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 9:28pm
Stop Looking for a Soul Mate if You Want to Find Real Love

Psychologist Jean Cirillo says believing in soul mates is a waste of time and could prevent you from finding long-term commitment

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 11:11pm

I think there is a difference between looking for an idealized partner and someone with certain key qualities, i.e. must haves like a certain income level.

I believe there are so many combinations of qualities, variables, traits, characteristics, and unknowns that if I am focused on a set, rigid, idealized type/image then I would miss the delight of discovering who the person is, their uniqueness.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:25pm

Hi

The only security lies within yourself.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 5:56pm
floridagirl52 wrote:

Before I married at 29, I would think from time to time of being rescued by a prince. But I had always worked and knew how to take care of myself. When I got divorced 4 years later, I got even smarter about taking care of myself (e.g. really figuring out how to save for retirement). I no longer thought of rescue by a man, but rescue by me.

At this stage of my life, I am preparing for the possibility of never finding a man to spend my life with.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 5:53pm
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 4:18pm
I think everyone has an inner super hero. Some just don't know it yet. Some know it, but haven't the gumption to use their powers to their fullest potential. This applies to love, just as it does every day life, in my humble opinion.
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Registered: 09-12-2005
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:35pm

I'm also very independent and a "Prince" to me is not someone who saves me from my misery, but someone who treats me like a princess lol. And while I need to admire him for something, he might be considered as ordinary by others or even by himself.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 1:10pm

Before I married at 29, I would think from time to time of being rescued by a prince. But I had always worked and knew how to take care of myself. When I got divorced 4 years later, I got even smarter about taking care of myself (e.g. really figuring out how to save for retirement). I no longer thought of rescue by a man, but rescue by me.

At this stage of my life, I am preparing for the possibility of never finding a man to spend my life with.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:31am

I think I gave up on looking for princes long ago.

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