Unwelcome blast from past

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Unwelcome blast from past
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Wed, 04-26-2006 - 2:56pm

Why do me exes seem to know right when they should come back and mess with my head? I just start to get excited about someone new, then...

Wham! The guy who broke my heart last year feels the need to write me out of the blue nowhere and fill me in on his life, including the fact that he's dating someone new. But, he wants to see me as friends and do I want to get together for a drink? What purpose does that serve? Does he want to hurt me?

I am so frustrated at myself that I even chose to open the e-mail in the first place. I should have made that an automatic delete. I'm trying not to let it ruin my day, but it does sting. It's like he had to announce that he found someone better than me.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 10:15am

Men do have that sixth sense. I remember them talking about that on Sex and the City once. As soon as you meet someone new or feel really good about being single or in any way fail to need them anymore, they pop right back into your life.

My sister and I joked about how there should be a pop-up blocker for ex-boyfriends.

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:05pm
Women can do this sort of thing too. So I dont think it is a gender thing.
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 1:15pm

Thanks everyone. I am feeling much better today - after reading all of your supportive posts and venting to my sister last night. It helped to remember all the jerky things he did while we were together and how much I'm better off without him anyway. The new girl can have him, and all the crap that goes with him. :)

(and I'm ticked off on her behalf as well -- he's dating her but wants to "hang out" with an ex? there's just something wrong with that. Jules, that reminded me of that story about your ex awhile back).

I wrote him back to tell him I don't want to see him or try to be friends. He'll be blocked from now on. Just the way I reacted to his e-mail made me realize that this situation is much better left in the past. I just don't have the time or energy to dwell on the past anymore.

On a positive note, I have a date Saturday that I'm looking forward to. I fully plan to enjoy that night, and not let this little speed bump from yesterday get me down.

The sun is shining and it's 70 degrees. That's also helping my mood. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 7:00am

"there should be a pop-up blocker for ex-boyfriends."


Oh my gosh, that would be freaking Wonderful!!........LOL


Im new to this board, but just Had to reply to this!! (Ive been following Hals story and now Mr

Have a good one,  

  Gayle

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 7:42am

That's the annoying part- that they assume you'll still be single and that you'll still care.

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:50am

I did have the pleasure of telling him that I just started seeing someone (not that it's officially a relationship or anything, but he doesn't need to know that).

Gayle -- every one of my exes has done that as well. Usually about a year later, sometimes longer. My long-term ex (5 years) did it last year about this time. He was relentless with e-mails, letters, showing up on my door. Very painful, but I told him the same thing: "go away. let me get on with my life."

It's too bad they didn't realize what a good thing they had when they were with me -- because it's too late when they realize it later. :) And, yes, I'm the ole standby with a good heart so they expect me to be open arms when they show up.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:05pm

yes, I'm the ole standby with a good heart so they expect me to be open arms when they show up.


YEP, thats what happens here too


Im glad to see Im not the only one though!...lol sorry..lol


My friends either keep exes as friends by "their" choice or they are never to be seen again

Have a good one,


Gayle

Have a good one,  

  Gayle

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