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| Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:02am |
I told you all about the ex who got married and the emails. I finally got all of my thoughts together today and sent him an email telling him how what he did made me angry and that I thought his behavior was cowardly and dishonest. I must have really pi**ed him off because I got a nasty response saying that he wasn't going to debate it with me and that he thought that I was being unfair and harsh. Then he said that he has no problem with a friend objecting to misbehavior on his part but that he does object to a judgement as delivered on high. Hehehe
I just wrote back and told him that I wasn't surprised that he feels this way and that I had no intention of debating him. I pointed out that I called his behavior cowardly and dishonest but did not say that he himself is that kind of person. I generally think that he is a good person. I said that I cannot deliver judgment as on high since I judge myself as harshly as anyone else in my life and consider myself equals with my friends. I simple expect that same respect and honesty from my friends that I give to them.
I doubt that he will respond to that and I really don't care. I wrote the email telling him how I feel for myself, not him. He obviously has not changed in all of the years since we parted and I surely did not think that one email from me would make him see the light. I wrote that email for me. When he and I were together, I was so scared of losing him that I buried my own feelings. I simply was not going to do that again. I only responded to his email to rebut accusations that he levied on me about being judgmental.
I could have just never written to him again and been done with it that way but I feel better about the entire situation for having called him on his behavior and for sticking up for myself. I validated my feelings (whether he agrees or not) by voicing them instead of burying them or just letting the whole thing go.

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Edited 1/25/2006 8:43 am ET by lesleylou
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