Update.. Good and Bad LOL

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Update.. Good and Bad LOL
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Sun, 01-12-2014 - 5:44pm

Okay everyone.. So the guy I was talking about from OK Cupid has called me again today but I didnt answer the phone cause I was outside.

He then sent me a message and said lets chat on gmail. So I logged in and we were chatting.. He did not mention money or anything but did say he wont be back to NY until the end of the month... Then I stupidly asked him if he was real and so he said yes lets do a video chat and I will show you I am real. So we did and he was sitting there at his desk, real and all.. He looked good and same as his pics.. He had on glasses but so do I when I read and do computer stuff and all...

oh; but I saw a few rings on his left hand and right hand.. I couldnt make it out but yes it could be a wedding ring but I am not sure.. His dating profile of course said single.. So now I was too scared to ask him if he was still married .. Maybe when I get up the courage LOL .. Just another minor detail.. oy vei...

But I do know this he is asking me questions about relationships.. You know those guys or women who are interviewing people for relationships. My heart of hearts and intuition and gut feeling feel he is looking for someone but he is looking for a good match for him. So he might be doing those questions and talking to other women.. Well that is his perogative I suppose.. But his English accent is the bomb and it is soooooooooooooo awesome and all but I can barely understand what he says..and he said he would call me tomororw and we can chat again.. So I wont be able to meet him in person if he so chooses me.. oh; God I hate that feeling until the end of the  month unless he is going to just meet a bunch of women and pick on... oi oi oi ouch ouch ouch..

The only thing I am wondering is why did he pick an older woman unless he just picked a bunch of women he liked and he is taking it from there..

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 01-12-2014 - 6:51pm

I'd proceed with caution--but still proceed. Often, too good to be true is exactly that--but sometimes, good luck does happen. Age isn't so important if you look good and he doesn't want kids.

I hope this is a time when you win the lottery of love!!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 01-12-2014 - 8:05pm

Of course I will proceed with caution and yes too good to be true... I keep thinking why did he choose me from the dating site but then again he hasnt... and he appears that he is shopping around and I was one of the bunch he liked.. Still dont know why though but whatever.. He is okay and I will continue to talk to him cause he said he wants to still talk on phone and video chat until he comes back to NY... but hasnt mentioned meeting yet.....but then again he is probably talking to  other women to see who is the best fit for him.........................

Its kind of fun and I forgot what it was like to have someone to  talk and laugh and share stories with..... I am going to be really upset if we dont even meet .. Nevermind click we might not even meet..

Such is life!!!!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 11:02am

Well I hope he is legit--I guess you will know when the end of the month comes.  At least you get some entertainment until then.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 11:58am

Ha ha yes entertainment...

Well we spoke this morning but only on chat.. He does call when he is not at work though to say hi and chat a bit....

So there is a five hour time difference.. He really sounds like a nice person but who knows? He said he was at work and wanted to see how I was and that was that. He said to meet him later online at 7 pm....

well you know how we women are.. I have to think of a million scenarios like is he really interested or is he looking for a green card or whatever.. a pen pal and does he really live in NY??Is he married? blah blah blah and why me???

From what he talks about sounds genuine because one cant make that up in a short amount of time unless he has a script or something.. Well I am just blabbing and of course wondering .. blabbing and wondering..blabbing and wondering.....

If he is real he talks about some nice things like genuine and from the heart.. really? yeah; it is going to be a letdown for me if we dont meet or he is fake.. yeah; yeah;; life goes on LOL

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 5:07pm

Hi Free,

I only did OLD very briefly several years ago.  You already know the common sense stuff.  

So, all I wanted to add was that I found that I knew immediately if there was any connection, or not.  One guy seemed great on the phone and I knew by the time he walked from his car to introduce himself to me waiting by the front door of the restaurant that he wasn't for me.  

Others were nice and we got along well and maybe had a second lunch date or what have you.  Obviously it didn't pan out with any of them, but I did have some fun with a couple of them and I have nothing negative to say about them.  

Good luck!

Serenity
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 5:39pm

Serenity.. thank you and yes I know all about OLD.. Been doing some dating from there for years now on and off... It has its ups and downs and in this day and age of being in the fifties its kind of like what we people do these days LOL

I have met some guys over the years but I believe I had so many blocks and negative emotions nothing panned out.. I did have some fun dates though and met some nice guys and not so nice guys.. this year though the last date I had was last March and that was it... So there are many variables besides age and other factors...

This time it appears that my soul and psyche are healed and I can finally be open to things. My heart is open so to speak..if you know what I mean.

JMHO

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 8:40pm

Does he say where he is now?  Is he in England?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 9:50pm

Yes He now says he is in England working......He says though that he lives in NY but travels for work... not sure what he does yet.

He says he will be back in NY either end of this month or beginning of next Month so who knows?

I am hoping that this goes goes away fast so that I dont keep my hopes too high.. so if he decides to ghost I hope he goes soon.

the plot thickens!!!

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 01-15-2014 - 2:23pm

Good luck Free - as long as you're enjoying the new friendship, flirtation or whatever it may turn into; that's the important thing.  I think you have a pretty good feel for shady scenarios - you'll be fine ;)

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 01-20-2014 - 2:49pm

Darn it, now there is another board I will have to check to keep up on your Free!   I wish they would bring back the check box for notifications.  I am not single, but when a thread catches my eye, I want to hear the updates.  Grrr.....

Serenity

Serenity