Update on vacation guy

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Update on vacation guy
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Sun, 09-08-2013 - 6:40pm

I got an email this week from the guy on the vacation last week.  He said that he is sending back some of the money that I paid to stay there because "it didn't cost as much as we thought."  I think that was an excuse and maybe he felt bad that I left early (due to my best friend's mother's funeral) or he thought I didn't have a good time (or the 3some didn't work out, ha, ha).  Then he said that maybe next year they could get better organized and have more people rent a house for a week--I am definitely not going to be one of them.  But he said "We'll have to invite M(his GF)--she proved to be very useful."  What a jerk!  I mean, he has an offbeat sense of humor so I'm sure he was joking (and tone of voice doesn't show in email) but I'm sure if she saw that, she wouldn't be happy--it's like yes, we have to keep her around cause she did all the cooking and cleaning (plus sex at night)--I mean what more could a man want?  I guess he really wouldn't want me cause I wouldn't be doing his cooking every night.  I'd be saying where are you taking me for dinner?  I've had 24 years of having to cook for my kids.  I'd like a break.

In other news, there was a guy I met this summer at salsa dancing--did I mention him before?  He's a lawyer and we get along very well.  He's really funny & he's always telling me how much patience I have dancing with him cause he's a beginner.  They used to have the dances outside on Mondays after work.  Now they switched to Sat. afternoon cause they figure it's getting colder & darker.  After the vacation fiasco, I was in the mood to give up on men and figured why should I even bother with this guy, plus I was going out to a dance on Sat. night & I thought  it would be too tiring so I didn't go.  We have exchanged some emails and I hadn't heard from him since the last dance 2 weeks ago, so I was just writing him off.  So I got an email from him yesterday saing "we missed you at salsa."  Yeah, who is WE?  I'm sure that there was no one else besides him.  Also the last time, I had parked on a different street & got a ticket at a meter and I thought the meters expired at 6:00 so I had told him that & I'd have to go back to check the meter.  So he went to check the meter and said that it expired at 8:00--I'm impressed that 1) he remembered 2 weeks later and 2) he actually went to look.  I seriously doubt anything will come from this more than friendship cause he is younger than me (8 yrs, but he doesn't know that) but I would like to have him as a friend.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 7:57pm

I'm confused about the meter thing.  I was following you until you said "two weeks later".  Not that it matters because I stay confused 99% of the time, anyway ;)  

I think it's nice that he took the time to let you know HE missed you.  So sweet!  Melts my hardened little heart as a matter of fact, ha!  Is it a weekly or monthly thing?  Are you planning on going the next time it comes around?  I would if I were you :)

Oh gawd, the guy from the lake just needs to take a hike.  YUCK.  He is sliiiiiiiiiiiiiimy.  Me no like.

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Sun, 09-08-2013 - 8:43pm

Oh I meant that I got the parking ticket 2 weeks ago & I had emailed him about it at that time and he said he would go to look if he was in the area, which I figured he never would.  I walked down there from work myself on Friday since it was nice out.  So I'm surprised he actually did remember that for 2 weeks & actually go to look--it's kind of near the dance place, but not right there on the block, so he would have to walk specifically to go look at the meter.  They were having the dances every Mon. night, but skipped Labor Day weekend and switched to Sat. last week.  There are only 2 more weeks so after he said that he missed me, I'm definitely going to go next Sat no matter how tired I am from dancing the night before.

Yes I'm not liking vacation guy--his GF told me he never tells anyone they are dating (she has to do it), she also said he's not affectionate in public.  I'm thinking that's not a good sign.  I figured they were just friends as sometimes they would show up at an event driving together, but usually also w/ other people in a car pool.  Most of the time if someone is your SO, you'd show some sign of affection, at least like putting your arm around them or sitting close by.  Since he's the group leader, he always dances with all the girls, but I haven't noticed him dancing closer with her or anything.  Next time we're together in a group, I am really going to pay attention to how he acts in public.  I'm thinking that he doesn't want to admit they are together cause he wants to attract other women.