using scent to communicate?!

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Registered: 07-07-2003
using scent to communicate?!
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Mon, 07-21-2003 - 10:48am
There is this guy whom I sort of disliked at the start, but when I realised that he was kinder to me than I expected, I started to fancy (ok I admit I was quite weird) He was a co-worker of mine, but we did not meet that often. I tried to be friendlier to him, and chatted with him via email. The other day he came to our office for some general administrative purposes - but later I realised (I was told by a staff) that he had also come to deliberately wait for me - though what he told me face to face might as well have been settled in emails as was usually the case.

Despite the fact that he stayed for quite some time in my room and waited for me to arrive, and not knowing if I would really be "there" (my hours are not regular) he mainly chatted with my female colleague. He told me a few things when I arrived, but did not really chat with me. I was sort of disappointed that I borrowed my head in the paper work and did not bother him anymore. but then the strangest thing is that day he seemed to have overapplied the cologne - it smelt so strong that it stayed after he left - I've met him a lot in the past few months and he never did that - if he ever used one then it was hardly noticeable.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 07-21-2003 - 1:34pm
Don't read anything into the cologne. He may have just accidentally spilled it that morning, or remembered when he usually forgets.

If he is interested in you, and he deserves your attention, he'll ask you out. If he's not interested, or if he has issues beyond belief, he won't. Don't waste your time worrying about it, because you can't control what he does!

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Registered: 07-07-2003
Tue, 07-22-2003 - 10:02am
what about after a sent in a courtesy remark in a note, thanking him for all his consideration, and something like see you in the future in some xyz functions (sort of vauge, I did not mean to ask him out), like i did to most people whom i have worked with, and he replied suggesting "could come out and have tea when I am done with this major project"?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-22-2003 - 11:13am
I think analyzing a man's interest by his cologne is going a wee bit too far. If he is truly interested with honorable intentions, he'll ask you out on a proper date.