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Registered: 04-10-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 12:34pm
About 10 months ago, my live in boyfriend moved out of my house, we were on & off again through December then it ended. He was wonderful but an alcoholic, a serious alcoholic. Now he has gone to treatment and is doing great, I'm very proud of him. I know that we need to give it time, time to see if he will stay sober and time to see if we will get over the hurt that we caused each other during our breakup. We talked on the phone for over an hour last night, it was very emotional, painful...but we decided to start out as friends. I don't know that we can be just friends, we lived together and had such a good sexual relationship. I don't think I even want to be in a relationship but I promised him that if he went through the treatment that I would be here when he got out. I truely care about him very much. But I'm just loving being single right now. I know that he loves me very deeply and believe it or not, the feeling is mutual, but for some reason I'm not wanting to commit 100% to anybody right now. I guess I can only hope that we can start out as friends and maybe keep it there for a good amount of time, then decide if it is meant to go back to where it once was. I feel like I know what I have to do but don't really know that it is the right thing to do.

Also....I posted on July 18th..."Friends with Benefits"... another friend of mine wanted to be friends and hook up for sex occassionally!!! What a joke!!! If anybody is wondering...that didn't work the way it was meant to...turned out bad actually...

Relationships!!!!! arrgghhh!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: reneby
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 4:07pm
Of course we were wondering!! Most folks come on here, ask a question and then never tell ya what happened - its why I don't watch the news - you never get to the end of the story. I love hearing how things turned out...I probably gave you advice on the Friends post as I've had two such r/ships. Harder to maintain than a real r/ship sometimes! LOL.

As to the bf, I think you should just be friends until you really know whats up with him. Enjoy your single life and be a friend if/when he needs one. Nice of you to stick to your word...

Good luck! Go.