Venting on a Friday Morning
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| Fri, 06-30-2006 - 9:41am |
Well, I have been going to more events and just getting out there again lately. I even decided to do match.com for a month despite it not having worked very well for me in the past. I got an email from a man who I was actually interested in which is extremely rare for me because I find it almost impossible to become interested through those profiles, 90% of which say the same things. So we emailed a few times and he was really intelligent and interesting (and cute). He was also extremely nice and very complimentary, telling me how pretty I am, etc.
So the last email was one that I sent to him. He had asked about my job so most of the email was a description of the policy work that I do (I used a Hurricane Katrina example of what my job entails - something happens and I write policy in response to it). It was a nice email, I thought, and I ended by saying that I hoped that what I had told him so far was enticing enough to want to meet.
See, I hate the email back and forth thing. I don't really get a feeling for someone that way. It tends to use up a lot of conversation topics for first meetings as well. It just all around annoys me. If you have genuine interest - have the guts to meet in person. I know that any man who shys away from that and needs a ton of emails and phone calls is just not going to be the type of person that I can click with.
So I have not heard back from him and this was Tuesday. And he has been on the site since then. And I am really irritated.
I don't have anything emotionally invested in this particular person, that's not the problem. I just get so irritated when someone just disappears like that. Have the stones to just say that something I said leads you to believe that we won't be compatible or that you met someone else or whatever.
Sheesh!

This is why "getting back out there" is so hard. After spending time away from dating, you build back up to it, develop a positive attitude -- and then all the same old irritating things start happening again. The whole cycle is just exhausting.
With online dating, I have found that there are a lot of people who want to IM and e-mail forever and take forever working up to that first date. I hate that, too. I mean, is it really that hard to meet someone for a 30-minute cup of coffee or a drink to see if there's anything there? No, it isn't. I find it MUCH harder to e-mail endlessly for someone who could end up being a terrible match. What a waste of time, eh?
AJ, enjoying life with C.
<< So I have not heard back from him and this was Tuesday. And he has been on the site since then. And I am really irritated. >>
That's so sad. Happened to me too, all the time. The minute I write something more serious about my work or activities (because they ask), they disappear. It is a waste of time, and also, it clearly shows that they are interested in women who are "lighter" and more fun, whatever that may mean. I think sometimes they just get intimidated.
>This is why I envy people who are happily married
Surely it would be better to envy people who are "happily single"!
"Surely it would be better to envy people who are "happily single"!"
There are poeple out there who do actually envy the single person. Especially the happy single!
Just be sure to start saving for your Rascal now.
I think you should get one of those sidecar things, like on motorcycles, so that if I come visit I can ride along.