Venting my frustrations

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Venting my frustrations
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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:28pm

First, I have to say that I really think most men have got to be really moronic or something.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 6:25pm

Honestly, Mark, I don't remember exactly what I typed, but I do think that your views are similar to the views of the men I'm frustrated with.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 6:38pm

I suspect that if we actually had a real, interactive (i.e. non-email/online) conversation we would be more in agreement than not. I may or may NOT get it but please don't attack me.

We are all different and approach our lives and relationships the best we can. I work on doing that with respect, consideration and compassion. You may not agree with what I post or understand how I come across in real life but that is my practice in real life and online as well. I have had experiences with some great women who have become instant friends as well as women who grew close as time went on.

Regardless, if you don't want my empathy then I will make a note of that. My intention was to support you.

And yes I'm being light and offering myself to the group and NOT hitting on you so again my request is if you are so frustrated and wanting to take it out on me then please do so without your CL login.

Take care,
Mark

Mark

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 7:07pm

Well, if it helps any at all to know . . it is just as bad on our side of the table. I have the unforgivable “affliction” of being thin. Not so hot on a man, and I don’t hide it at all on those web sites, let people move on.

The guy you described just now sounds like an arrogant little . . . hmm . .none of the words I want to use are allowed. (-: Honestly what I think happens to the more “average” human beings when they get on these sites . . the see “millions” of potential “buyers” and decide to “advertise” for impossible standards. It could be a wonderful form, but otherwise normal people all of a sudden set some crazy standard that is so limiting. Just nuts.

I did Match for a long time . . I finally just reached a point I was over it. I met people, met the girlfriend I write about there as a matter of fact. However just too much nonsense, to much unnecessary rejection . . . to many “job interviews” over coffee. I would describe my experience not so different than your own. My take, I would look at this less from the “rejection” stand point. Chances are they are twenty losers, and you saved a lot of time not having to prove it. I really have starting thinking old school again, face to face, risk saying hello to a stranger type stuff. An opportunity to have a conversation without all the agenda attached.

As for you not asking men out . . . well at least I don’t feel like I am missing anything. LOL . . . .I really would have been shocked if they were saying no. Sometimes I wish you girls would risk some with us . . .(-: But in the end, you are right . . most men probably would not show it the proper appreciation. So alas . . .I have to just keep taking the chances. (-:

Hang tough kid . . all things work out.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 7:40pm

I'm not attacking you, Mark.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 8:35pm

>>I'm convinced men want to be slapped around emotionally. They want demands placed upon them. They want us to walk all over them and call them fifteen times a day because we're afraid they're cheating.

Yeah, but then they BITCH about it! Talk about how all women are nagging, controlling wenches, well HELLO.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 8:42pm

>Those same bitter men will continue to date those same women that make them hate us over and over again.<

Eheheh. This was a phenomenon I saw at college and never could understand. The girls who were the most high-maintenance snotty bitches would always have dates--and the guys who took them out were oblivious to their lousy personalities even when said girls were parading them in front of other (dateless) girls when the guys came to pick them up at the dorm. You would think these guys would wise up, but a fair amount of them never learn. Their need for a trophy piece on their arm trumps _everything_, but they can't admit that to themselves. So they keep dating bitches--and keep swearing up and down all women are like that.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 10:11pm

>So they keep dating bitches--and keep swearing up and down all women are like that.<

Yep. So too bad for them.

So you guys just keep dating your bims because they look good on your arm. And then don't complain when she takes you to court and gets "half" of your worth. Because YOU asked for it. And YOU got it!

And guys say that WE're irrational and think only with our hormones! LOL!!

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:14pm
Yeah, frigging seriously....but you know what, those guys that feel the need to have some bimbo trophy on their arm....probably not worth having.
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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:49pm
What kind of guys are you showing interest in. Are they the guys who come into the bar with tonnes of friends and who already have a lot of other women eyeing them? If that's the case, they have their choice, so it's unlikely they're going to want to chose you out of everyone else. Try going for the average guy; the shy guy in the corner who's too afraid to keep solid eye contact with you from across the room or to make the first move. Also, perhaps you're giving the impression that you want a serious relationship too soon. Try giving the impression that you just want to hook up at first, and MAYBE you'll let it grow into a relationship.
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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:51pm

>but you know what, those guys that feel the need to have some bimbo trophy on their arm....probably not worth having.<

Especially after the bim gets done with him! Sucker!

Too bad for you, boy! You should have gone with the nice girl!

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