Venting my frustrations
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Venting my frustrations
| Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:28pm |
First, I have to say that I really think most men have got to be really moronic or something.
| Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:28pm |
First, I have to say that I really think most men have got to be really moronic or something.
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Thank you. And I couldn't agree with you more.
>Well said. You actually seem to be quite the insightful guy. You were also right about....
*****It would be nice to meet a guy who may treat me to something nice other than them looking to me to buy them cr*p! nd no, I am no pimp daddy, but they think (hope) I'm their Sugar Mamma.****
You posted something about a book, guys who "look like Tommy" etc . . girls standing in line , . .. just asking . .is that as far as you look? I have dated one woman who insisted on spitting tabs, and to date she has never gotten the opportunity. She has that old phD thing going. I always have some excuse to pay. I never take a dime from a woman, friend or LTR. Or from any friend for that matter. Nor would any man respect someone who did. Nor would any friend I have. But I hang in a professional / Simi professional crowd. So I truly would have no clue about it. Nothing wrong with hot guys, or talent . . but employed is not excluded . . just not as fun. You are dating people who have not grown up. I try hard to scare my on daughters off of the type. No job, run. They want you to flip the bill, run. Rent, run faster. (-: Not being mean about it, but the guys you are describing are a dime a dozen. The male side of Bimbo. So why do you date them at all? Just curious.
And be clear . .not talking looks hear, hot guys have jobs, go to school, become Dr's or whatever.. and Dr's might surf, but they wont be "surfers" in there 30's because they will be to busy at work. They will "surf" after work. . . .why are you ending up with the guy that is "mooching" . .that is the question. I honestly think you have to look in some to know. Poor selection, lot of men like you describe are out there, no question about it, but a lot that aren't. . . . . what attracts you to them?
You asked, so this is what I see with the little information I have . . .I did see your other remarks and plan to respect your space.
"Now a lot of the men I look at won't even accept someone who's average. Even the ones who describe themselves that way! It's skinny or nothing. It's ridiculous."
I think you would be surprised. I truly believe that men like women with a little meat on their bones and not rail thin. I know the guy I am dating, if there is one thing he could change about me, would be that I was about 6 inches taller and forty pounds heavier. It's not a secret that he has always been attracted to taller females with womanly curves.
By no means am I dainty, but he feels like he will break me if he hugs me too hard. I am petite, barely 5'2" and small and sometimes I find myself getting jealous of those girls who are taller and curvier. So it goes both ways and not all men want super thin girls.
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There's a term I gave for that years ago back in the 80's. I call those dudes 'himbos'.
They fool you in the beginning, and I have zero standards because I didn't want to be 'judgemental' of people. It wasn't cool for middle-class, university educated girls in England to be judgemental. So I saw myself and my friends date losers from all around the world. It was like, 'we'll give him a chance.' So we all started dating down, as I call it.
And also being a professional woman who goes to lots of networking events, etc. I have seen those professional, married men not behave so well so they don't impress me, and they aren't that great. Not saying women don't cheat, because we sure do.
Back to fooling me in the beginning. They have jobs, goals, are in school, whatever then they quit their jobs, drop out of school. I am not alone with this. It happens to a lot of my GF's who are all professional women with higher education.
Maybe you can explain to me why loser men are attracted to successful women?
<> That was not posted by me. Who's Tommy?
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<> That was not posted by me. Who's Tommy? ******
Some rock star, no one important, was married to some girl name Pam. (-:
I’ll have to go back and look . . must have gotten myself confused. Wow, that’s something new. LOL Sorry for the misunderstanding.
Ok, what you are describing makes perfect since. And I was completely focused on the Money / mooch thing. I have the misfortune of having one attached to my youngest daughter right now, sensitive subject. She is at the Rent phase. Arggghhhh
This response was more about character than mooching. (-: In those networking events, haven’t you ever met a guy who just did tell you about his wife and kids, and not step over the lines? Men don’t fit in a nice neat little box any more than women do. I think more men cheat, but I am not sure the margin is so wide as stereotypes allow for. And you are right, it is more difficult to keep that old radar up when all the right signals are there. These guys sound like professional shoppers at a network event . . or just mamas boys who assume it will be ok when they want to quit once in. I frankly have some very complicated thoughts on this, but the readers digest version is we have stopped raising adults, We are raising children, no real sense of consequence, a total sense of entitlement and no work ethic whatsoever. As such a bigger part of the “pool” we both have to chose from is full of adult “children” and the real adults are a much smaller part of it, less to pick from. I think you and I agree . . .the “child” thing is unattractive.
*******Maybe you can explain to me why loser men are attracted to successful women?*******
Easy . . meal tickets have money. . .LOL . . Why can a fat man in a Porch bed a trophy? He is a meal ticket, she is for sale. Successful women are a target to these guys, why have a double wide trailer when you can have a big home, big screen and a full bar. Women or a man the mentality doesn’t change. (-: They are to me all leaches, and all for sale. I have no respect for the bunch of them. But that’s just me. I just think men blatantly buy there trophies . . . . the male leaches are better cons. Or so it seems to me.
I just said this somewhere else . . but it is very true. If the right person was easy to find, they would be a commodity and have no value whatsoever to us. I try to remind my self of that from time to time. (-:
A child becomes an adult when he realizes that he has a right not only to be right but also to be wrong.
Thomas Szasz 1920-, American Psychiatrist
Found this. Sums up what is missing in these men.
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