Wanting what they can't have

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wanting what they can't have
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Sat, 11-26-2011 - 4:15pm
This is why some women play games. I hate the games, but it's hard not to have a little fun when they work so well.

So my "friend" sent me a text Wednesday night asking if I wanted him to come over. I was out of town and already in bed, so I ignored the text (not even really knowing who I was ignoring). I replied the next morning saying I'd be out of town until Sunday- no response.

Last night, I was bored and had been thinking about him so I texted saying I wished I was in town so we could get together. He seemed to really want to see me. Even after I told him I'd be in touch later in the week, he texted me again an hour or so later expressing how it sucked that I wasn't there. Up until last night, I wasn't convinced that he even cared if I said no or not or that he thought about me much. Could it be because he couldn't have me?

Before I gave in to him, I shot him down several times-for months even (he's previously been known as pervy guy). Even before he started sending me sexual texts, I wasn't more than friendly. He continued to pursue me even after getting shot down. Now that he has me, at least part of me anyway, he's backed off. Until last night. I fully expect to hear from him tonight as well.

He's not a player or I'd understand the "hard to get" unavailable thing working on him. I don't even know for sure yet if I want more, but I do know that I want him to want more with me. So maybe playing the game is the way to go.

I don't think I'll even get the hang of this "men" thing!

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 12:03am
I guess the trick is to pretend like we're not interested, even when we are. Every once in awhile, throw them a bone and do something super sweet then pretend like it was a different person the next day. We've gotta reel them in, then throw them back.

Unfortunately, none of that comes naturally to me at all. In fact, it just seems wrong.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 2:04am

It DOES seem wrong, but then, we are the blind leading the blind.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 10:16am

Interesting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 10:19am

I think when you are with the right person, you don't have to play all these silly games.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 11-27-2011 - 12:46pm

>>I think when you are with the right person, you don't have to play all these silly games.<<

--So true!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005
Mon, 11-28-2011 - 11:58am

I agree too. When a guy likes you and has serious intentions to get to know you, you don't need to play games.

If he's looking to just have fun, he'll lose interest after a while, no matter what you do.... I would think. So if he does, the hell with him, he wasn't right for you anyways.

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