Wawaweewa!

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 11:12pm

I just found an old flame on myspace. I'm freaking out. Has anyone else gone into shock upon finding "the one that got away"? He's married and has two little boys. I saw a pretty recent pic of him, too. He hasn't changed much, put on a little weight.

We toyed with the idea of marriage, dated long enough (four years) to figure out that it would never work, and parted ways. You have to understand, I NEVER imagined that I would EVER see him again, cyberspace included. He lives hundreds of miles away and is not a computer savvy guy, hated modern technology. Funny how things change!?! I feel as if I just bumped into him on the street corner or something.

Okay, I'm going to go drink some calming tea or meditate or look up some good therapists in my area ; ) If any of you have any similar stories, I'd love to hear . . .

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Registered: 11-21-2005
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:10am
I don't consider any of them to be "the one who got away," but I know what you mean about finding ex's or former crushes
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Registered: 11-01-2005
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 12:29pm

UGH. I've reconnected on Myspace with old high school flames that I dated for a few months, but nothing like this. If I 'bumped into' my LT-ex there (or in person), I'd have a very hard time with that. I do think, in this case, ignorance is bliss. Much easier to move on with your own life when you have no current knowledge of the "one who got away."

I'm sorry. I can imagine how you must feel. :(

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:04pm
Thanks. Some of my post may have been for dramatic effect, LOL, and I must clarify, I don't really consider him to be the one who got away because it was quite evident that it wouldn't have worked . . . I'm fine : ) Was just in shock there for a minute. You're correct though, some things are better left to the imagination.
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 5:59pm
I looked up an old B/F and found him on myspace. I still think about him even though it was 4 years ago. I wrote him a short note and he didn't write back! At first it pissed me off, then it reminded me what a jerk he could be, so I guess it was a good thing, even though I was a little embarrassed.
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Registered: 11-21-2006
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 11:10pm

I found this guy I dated 6 years ago on my space. We dated for like 6 months nothing serious but we had major chemistry. We had a strange break up. We were in college and summer rolled around and he was going home for the summer and we promised to keep in touch, call, visit, etc. And with one passionate kiss he was gone (he didn't keep in touch with me like he promised =-( Fall rolled around and I would always seem him with this girl (a girl he met over the summer). They were always cute together and you could tell they were all in love. Like I said eariler I found him again on myspace and he ended up marriange that girl. His picture page contains some of him and his wife with huge smiles on their faces. They look really content and I'm happy for him! No hard feelings. Oh, crazy myspace =-)
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Sat, 03-17-2007 - 10:16am
Yeah, it's just a strange feeling. I knew I shouldn't have gone looking but curiosity killed the cat, as they say. It's odd having something like myspace at your fingertips. It's sooooo tempting!