"We" are not pregnant

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Registered: 11-19-2006
"We" are not pregnant
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 8:34pm
My best friend always says about her and her husband trying to concieve "When WE were trying to get pregnant", and "When WE finally got pregnant". For some reason that really irks me like she's trying to be all cutesy. I would equate it to PDA or something the way it makes me uncomfortable! I don't know if it's because I visualize her husband in stirrups and materinity clothes or what. She literally tells me I "don't understand" because I'm single of course. Well "we" do not get gestational diabetes, and "we" do not get prostate exams, and "we" do not get the epistiotomy (sp?)!! Anyone else think this way or shall I attribute it to my own meager existence of singleness???
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 11:02pm

Honestly, if I ever end up pregnant it better be a "we" because I am not going through all that alone.

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Registered: 11-19-2006
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 11:36pm
Good point! :)
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 12:21am

I am not sure that I understand the question, LOL.

It is a little uncomfortable though. I remember both my brother and sister announcing that "they were trying" and I chringed ever so slightly . . .

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:29am

there has never been a we in you and me
ok a guy cant get pregnant
so there is no we
sorry but the man can impregnate yes
but cant get pregnant

there is you
there is me
there is and can never be we

so i am single
and i agree with you

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 5:36am

i think its just a bit innapropiate to announce or broadcast to anyone that you are trying
doesnt that really say they are having sex all the time
why not just say that instead of sugar coating it
it would just as innapropiate

again i never really thought how innappopiate thats really is
until now

gosh its just as innapropiate as women breastfeeding in public and i have seen it and it was distasteful

like thats too much info for them to say they are trying
again its just a nice way to say they are having sex more oftehn than usual

wow come to think of it its kida rude

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Registered: 11-19-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:33pm
OMG, now that you mentioned it...gotta start a new thread about the breastmilk in the fridge at work!!! EEEEwww!!!
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:46pm
That's so funny! I remember sitting around at a family thing with all the old women in my family. After the standard for me ("Are you dating anyone?"), it was my smug newlywed cousin's turn for "And when will you guys start a family?" Then my cousin announced that she and her husband have been "trying" for 6 months, and me and my big mouth, I go "Wow, it doesn't seem like you've been married for that long, does it!" AND SHE HADN'T. It was only 3 months that she had been married, and you could see all of our old aunts doing the math and clutching their pearls. Heheheheh, be smug at me, will ya!
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 5:59am

I don't think the "we" is that bad it does actually take the two of them to get pregnant and I think the continued "we" after the woman is pregnant is just to make the SO feel included.

I think it's just annoying that someone would assume you couldn't possibly understand anything because you are single, as if we have no brain and can't comprehend anything. When you are in a relationship does your IQ jump a few notches suddenly as well?

Smile,

Deirdre