Well, wonders never cease

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Well, wonders never cease
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 9:20am
After all my confusion over the last couple of weeks, I went out on what I guess was our 6th date with this guy that I've been seeing (having wondered if the "warm" chemistry between us was going to turn hot). I was really wondering before the date if I might break it off, if I was being unfair to him.

Well I don't know what happened but within a few hours I was gung-ho to spend the night. And did. And I'm happy about it!

Still observe that he does not exactly have a hot bod but somewhow it doesn't matter so much. I just like his face, his eyes so much that I can ignore those extra pounds (people always look less fat naked anyway - I certainly think my, er, ample ass looks better naked than in clothes anyway).

Well I don't know if I am in love but damn, I like this guy. A lot. It's so different than any dating experience I've ever had. I still feel very much in control... there's no wondering abouyt when he'll call, even if he calls later than he said he would or a day later... I just don't care because I'm confident he likes me and I hate clinginess anyway. I don't have that mad, falling-off-a-cliff feeling that I always used to really want. But I'm feeling right now that being with someone who's a good friend, who's respectful and considerate, who's fun, who I can talk to and who's a great shag is a GOOD THING.

Yay, me.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 9:28am
Yea you! I'm glad you stuck it out a little longer. It doesn't happen very often that you go from not so hot about a guy to really liking him, but in my experience, when it does happen, it's pretty great.

I hope things continue to work out for you two. You sound really, really happy!

Keep us updated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 10:03am
your feelings may still grow you know... ocytocin effect and all. ;-)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 10:40am
That is awesome!! In the long run, we all get fatter and flabbier with age - its really the person that counts!! Yay you!

Keep us posted...I loved reading your updates...Go.