"Well you're single so you have less expenses"

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Registered: 02-27-2002
"Well you're single so you have less expenses"
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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 4:27pm

How would you react to this statement if a married person/with kids said this to you.......??

Mel

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Lately I have been ignoring people and their negative comments. I just nod or dont say much..

On facebook someone was venting about his life and that he was alone and had no one and married people were saying he was lucky because he only had to watch after himself..

Once again its people who are single want to be in a relationship and people who are married want to be single.

Its always the same old thing..

Hang in Mel.. things will get better I promise you..

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Registered: 02-27-2002

Hi,

Thanks free......I guess with this comment I meant more to open a debate.......would you agree? As a single person I think we have waaay more expenses (on one income).........just wondering what other people on the board would think about that comment.......

Thanks for your kind words........ :)

Mel

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Registered: 01-25-2010

 So?  i still have expenses.  I what I would say. 

chaika

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Registered: 01-02-2008

I think being single appears more expensive because there is no one to split costs with and no one to share bills with..

That is why God made Eve for Adam.. So that if one shall fall the other picks that one up and visa Versa..

Only thing is when being single its more like a balancing act.. Like if I cant drive anywhere because I used my gas budget allowance I walk or dont go out.. I dont have anyone picking me up or anything to drive me somewhere ...

I love also not fighting with someone over money.. and I feel better in knowing that I can spend my money on whatever I want and no one can tell me what to do with me.. I still suffer from being married (divorced now) from a very controlling mentally ill man who told me what to buy and what to do... Although I had nice things he always checked my bags and things when I came in the house. After awhile I would hide my packages.. Long story..

 

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Registered: 05-14-1999

Married people usually live off of their combined incomes which has to make things a little easier.  Although, kids can be expensive . . . I suppose my reaction would depend on the context in which it was stated.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I think it's the kids that definitely make things more expensive.  But if you compared single to married w/ 2 incomes, the married people are definitely better off.  For ex, when I got divorced, if you don't count the fact that I still had kids, say I lost 1/2 the house hold income but my expenses surely didn't get cut in half--the major expense, which is housing, is still the same.  There was only one car expense but the utilities didn't go down that much.  My friend & I were wondering why we are always scrimping and not having enough money (although she makes twice what I do, but she has a more expensive house) and we said--of course, we only have one income.  My cousins, for example, who are married and have 2 incomes but generally aren't in really high paying jobs, all have much nicer houses than I do and just don't seem to be struggling.  Like you, if I lost my job, there is no one else to pick up the slack.  But when I was married & my DH got hurt at work and had to go on worker's comp, at least we had my income.

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Registered: 02-27-2002
  • Hi,

I just wanted to get some opinions from the board on that one.........I thought it was a pretty ridiculous statement........

I know kids can be expensive but with only one income, things are so much different - you have to keep a roof over your head, etc. etc.  I think in this case both individuals had husbands who were the "alpha male" and had no idea what it was like to live as a single person........

Anyhow.......interesting the perspectives you hear out there!! lol.  I think living the single life is a mystery to a lot of people......

Mel

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Registered: 07-16-2001

I agree with Music. I think that having kids makes the difference. Plus, it's kind of a silly statement. What expenses does a married couple have that we don't have? It's not like there's a marriage tax. In fact, married couples get tax breaks. People with children get tax breaks. Maybe the response needs to be- "We have the same expenses, and I pay more taxes!" 

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Registered: 02-21-2010

I would think single people would have more expenses because they are single. A couple is eligible for various tax breaks/tax incentives that single people are not eligible for. If you go to the following link and look around, you will eventually find blog posts where she mentions this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single

We live in a culture where 51% of the population is single. So it's not as if being single isn't the norm. It is. And it's not bad. 
Here's another resource: http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/02/13/love-and-marriage/
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Registered: 04-16-2008

We live in a culture where 51% of the population is single. So it's not as if being single isn't the norm. It is. And it's not bad. 

So true.  All married people were once single, and with the divorce rate, many of them will be single again.

A couple is eligible for various tax breaks/tax incentives that single people are not eligible for.

It is not quite the same at higher income, though.  The current administration considers a family with an annual income of $250,000 "rich" and should be taxed at a higher rate.  For a single person, it is $200,000It makes financial sense not to get married at that point.


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