What are the right questions & answers?

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What are the right questions & answers?
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 11:54am

What sort of questions should a man ask to give you the hint he is interested in you?

NB: Straight to the point “Asking for your number” type answers will be ignored!!!

What answers would you give to make it clear that you ARE interested in him?

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 12:28pm

Are you single/seeing anyone?

Would you like to go out Sat night?

Yes.

Yes.

I know, you're going to ignore these ;-), but honestly, anything short of that is too ambiguous.

Sheri

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 1:06pm

I think asking questions to find out more about the girl, where she works, what she likes to do in her free time or if she likes to do things that you are interested in. These things can lead to good conversations, but they can still leave both you and the woman confused about how you are interested (dating/friendship/etc.) So you can ask those questions, then find a common interest and simply ask her to go do that with you sometime.

Trina

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 1:52pm

I know where she works...at my local gym! But I don't know if she is single and I'd like to find out without asking. We have the typical friendly, superficial conversations when I come and go. On Friday, I had planned to ask her what she was doing on the weekend to see if the conversation would lead to her mentioning a boyfriend. When I walked in some kids on work experience served me. She came out of the office to "assist" but it seemed like she wanted to talk to me. SHE then asked ME what I had planned for the weekend but she didn't ask it too clearly because she was distracted by the kids on work experience so I never got to answer...

She happened to be leaving just as I was and she gave me a smile a goodbye. I needed to get my membership card and hand in my towel. By the time I got outside she was in the distance and speaking to someone on her mobile phone. I assume the only person she would call right after work would be her boyfriend.

What next?

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:25pm

That's a silly thing to assume (about the call), IMO.

What next? Man up, as shy likes to say ;-), and ask her out already!

I don't know how you find something out without asking. That just seems nonsensical to me.

Sheri

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:34pm

You think it's easy being me, don't you?

I hardly know her and she hardly knows me. Ask her out...just like that!?

What makes you think this plan will work?

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:41pm

No, I don't know anything about whether it's easy to be you or not...but I'm not sure what that has to do with the price of eggs.

If she's at all interested, she will go for it despite the fact that you don't "know" each other. That is what dating is FOR...to GET to know each other! But she's seen enough of you to know whether she'd be receptive or not.

"Would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me sometime?" If she says yes, then set a time...have a couple options in mind. If she says no, then you'll know she's not interested.

Sheri

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:42pm

Geez, Hal.

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:45pm

I agree- it's a silly thing to assume.

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 3:05pm
This is a different girl. The last girl moved on to a new job before my..."things" came out of hibernation... The gym seems to be the only place I meet new women these days. I talk to lots of women, usually in the steam room or sauna. Women...women everywhere but not a drop to drink! But I shall study your script, memorise it, practice infront of a mirror until I am ready to execute it like a man with big things....I play the part of Hal, right?
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 4:49pm
Well you could say "Does your boyfriend mind you talking to eligible guys?" and if I was interested in you I'd say "I don't have a boyfriend" and if I was NOT interested in you I'd say "Well, he doesn't mind, as long as I am not flirting." Iri

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