What are the right questions & answers?
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What are the right questions & answers?
| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 11:54am |
What sort of questions should a man ask to give you the hint he is interested in you?
NB: Straight to the point “Asking for your number” type answers will be ignored!!!
What answers would you give to make it clear that you ARE interested in him?

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Yes, you play the part of Hal.
The other girl should be motivation.
Haven't read all the others posts, so sorry if I'm repeating anything, but I had to say, don't assume the only person she'd call would be her boyfriend. I often call my friends at a time when I know it's convenient for all of us, such as right after work, because that's when we're available to talk. We all get out of work at the same time, sometimes we're going to meet for an activity later that evening and we need to finalize plans, etc. Sometimes I call my mother to chat while I'm waiting for the bus. Sometimes I call and check my bank balance. Sometimes I return calls I may have not gotten to. Right after work is a good time to make calls, at least for me and the people I know, because it isn't yet dinner hour, so you aren't interrupting anyone, and after dinner you run the risk of calling too late.
Also, if you want her to know you're interested, or want to know if she's single, without telling/asking her, when you see her again, you can ask how her weekend was. See if she mentions a boyfriend, or uses the word "we" in a sentence. The fact that she's talking to you and asking about your plans tells me she's interested, since most women with boyfriends won't go out of their way to approach men just to be friendly.
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She was working in the gym today and she greeted me with a huge happy smile. But, even though I practised the script I was given I completely cracked under the pressure and forgot my lines, so I was forced to ad-lib. I asked her how her weekend has been and she said ‘hectic’, but no mention of a boyfriend! We engaged in a few seconds of small talk, she handed me a towel and off I went. Later, from the pool area I noticed she was constantly texting on her mobile phone, could it be to her boyfriend? When it was time to leave it seemed like once again she made an effort to serve me. I thought this was a good opportunity to find out if she is single.
Me: “You seem to be doing a lot of texting”
Her: “Yes, I am texting all the people who have been sending me texts”,
Me: “Oh, you seem to be very popular”
Her:“Well, they text me during the week and I am now replying”
Nothing about a boyfriend!
Here is the interesting part, she asked me what I had planned for the rest of the day, and she also told me that she has the day off tomorrow, but will spend it catching up on sleep.
Is this her way of trying to find out if I am single?
Where are you at again?
I need to know so I can come and kick your behind!
Ask her if she'd like to get a drink.
Seriously, do all of us women a favor and just ask. Your questions about what she's doing this weekend are perfect -- it's usually implied that you might want to be part of her weekend plans if you ask that (espcially with the right gleam in your eye - which she has probably already noticed anyway).
Men don't seem to realize that, when they like a woman, it's written all over their face. Their eyes get big, they stare a little, they smile shyly. We usually take these as signs that you might be interested -- but then we talk ourselves out of it when you never DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. (I've experienced this more than once - at the gym - and it's frustrating. Makes me want to stop hoping that a guy might actually get up the nerve to ask me out).
It's very likely she likes you as well and is just waiting for you to ask. No more overanalyzing - just do it already.
Would you rather let her move on to another job and have yet one more woman in your past who is a "coulda, woulda, shoulda"? If you ask, you'll know -- and kudos to you for trying no matter what the response!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
K I'm more wrapped up in this than any tv show. Come on Hal, its worse than a soap opera where 6 months later they're doing the same dang thing. Just ask!! :-D
Dont be a coulda woulda shoulda man.
Ruby
Hehehe! You gals are cracking me up!
Seriouly, Hal, YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE.
(Though I'm pretty sure you've already gotten the point here.) :)
Whenever a "who should make the first move" question crops up in discussion, women by the 10000's say that the MAN should make the first move. When you dig deeper, you find out that many of these women have made the first move at least once but were HUMILIATED by the rejection and vow never to do it again. So, I’ve got nothing to lose...? I would still like to got to the gym with my dignity intact.
She is off tomorrow and I will be back to work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. So you will all need to wait until next week to find out what happens in the next enthralling episode of “Hal’s Dilemma” - The single life, Friday night 9/8c
That is SO true!
I have made the move on guys before and yes it was humiliating but it didnt stop me from doing it again. I advocate a woman asking a guy for coffee or whatever and if a second date arises I do think its the guy's turn. A girl can show she is interested and ask without coming off as desperate and letting the man keep his cajones.
As long as you handle a rejection with grace, you really don't lose anything including your dignity.
Ruby
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