What are the right questions & answers?

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What are the right questions & answers?
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 11:54am

What sort of questions should a man ask to give you the hint he is interested in you?

NB: Straight to the point “Asking for your number” type answers will be ignored!!!

What answers would you give to make it clear that you ARE interested in him?

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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 4:46pm

It depends on what you mean by "humiliated by rejection." If you'd consider someone saying "No thank you" or "Thanks but I have a boyfriend" humiliating then I guess you'd better just steer clear of talking to women face-to-face altogether. Clearly, you don't want to do that so maybe just try redefining your idea of humiliation.
Unless the girl screams "Ew! No way, freak!" I'd say your dignity can remain unscathed.

On that note, maybe we'd all do better to ask ourselves how important this dignity thing really is. I mean, in a year or two or 10 are we going to say "I'm so glad I've been able to get through life with my precious, unscathed dignity" or would we rather say "Dang, I took some crazy chances and I was turned down once in a while but at least I didn't have to wonder"? I think I'd rather be a little risky than be caught wondering the days away.

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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 6:51pm

I'd rather take those chances, too.

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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:02pm
Yeah, I guess there are always going to be those people. I just can't imagine that my life and my actions would be that interesting. Obviously there are people that live for that sort of thing though.
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:25am

>I think I'd rather be a little risky than
>be caught wondering the days away.

A very good point lesleylou. This is my philosophy, but when it comes to dating it's not so easy.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:59pm

I agree with Lesley about the question of dignity.

When it comes down to it, people are much more wrapped up in themselves than they are you. Most of those onlookers won't even care or remember if you do end up looking foolish for a moment or two. If this particular woman holds it against you that you find her attractive, rather than being flattered, then that's her problem.

Remember, it really is only just a moment in time. If she turns you down, it doesn't mean you can't show your face at the gym again. Handle it with grace and go about your business as if it didn't even phase you.

On the flip side, she could say YES! I think it's worth the risk if that outcome might be a yes.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:38pm
Sorry to say this but watching you reminds me of how silly I used to be. By the way, next time when you see her, reach down and check if "those things" are there. That should remind you what to do!
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 5:23pm

Hehe...I don't know if grabbing himself right before approaching a girl is the greatest idea, but I agree in theory that it's the right idea!


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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:41pm
Hey hal, what makes you think she is interested? I don't see anything in her actions to indicate any interest. Hey, I'm just paying you back for what you said about the guy I'm interested in. At least my guy asks me questions about myself and is trying to get to know me. He also tries to make some sort of physical contact on a regular basis. If I walk by and don't acknowledge him, he makes sure I'm aware of his presence by doing something goofy or tease me about something. Go ahead, take your chances. All she could say is no!
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:02pm

Hi there Hal,

I have put some thought into this and decided that a question will get a man nowhere with me. What would really grab my attention would be a man who tells me that my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.

Do what you will with that information.

Jules

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:36pm

Ok, I need a translation...what the HECK does THAT mean????

Sheri