What did he expect to gain?

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What did he expect to gain?
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:38pm

Ok. I had an odd/annoying experience last night. I got home from work, threw on some jean cropped pants and went out the door to walk my dog. I was walking down a fairly busy street near my complex (in the suburbs). A guy drives by in a Saab - business professional, well dressed. He proceeds to STOP his car next to me, roll down the window and yell "hey, I really like your badonkadonk in those pants." (but he didn't say badonkadonk).

He sped off before I even had the chance to react. Now, I have had men (usually construction workers or guys in pickup trucks) wolf whistle at me on the street, but this was a first.

My question is, what did he really expect to gain by yelling that out the window and driving away? He didn't wait for a reply, so it couldn't have been to get a rise out of me or an attempt to get a date.

Maybe he's hoping to see more cute badonkadonks on his drive home from work and he thinks yelling out the window will encourage more women to wear tight pants?

I don't know. Someone enlighten me. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:45pm

I wonder if men say/do things to women like what happened to you, out of some kind of misogyny of sorts, as to say something to shock the innocent woman they don't know, or to make her feel bad, make her feel like an object, as this comment was to you. I feel like men who like women wouldn't say/do something to make a woman feel like an object that way.

Also I wonder if it is sexual frustration on the part of men who would do/say something harassing like this, to a woman they don't know, who is minding her own business, like "I can't get a date" or "my wife wouldn't have sex with me last night" etc, so--->take it out on some innocent bystander.

Just my two cents. I am not open to strange men out in public on account of this kind of thing, having gotten my share of it myself...at least a lot of the time, when I have gotten this kind of instance, it has not in any way felt complimentary or friendly on the part of the men doing it. Maybe this man said this to you in some friendly way, I don't know.




Edited 6/22/2007 1:48 pm ET by waveyoga
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:26pm
It was probably one of those testosterone driven impulsive moments. I am tempted to list examples, but I'll refrain.
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:38pm

Why don't you post a picture in that exact same outfit so we can see what prompted him to make the comment ?

OK just post a picture, period. All regulars to this forum should have a picture posted.




Edited 6/22/2007 2:40 pm ET by fruitedplain
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:46pm

You know, I've thought about it...it's nice to put faces to names. I probably will in the near future.

Anyway, I was coming home from going out later at night and was walking along a platform to catch my bus when some sketchy guy (who wasn't drunk, but had probably had a few) asked me to keep walking the entire length of the platform so he could stare at my a** for as long as possible. I gave him a dagger look and promptly stopped and turned around. :)

I think guys' fascination with our backsides is underrated and overlooked for the breast fixation....but I've gotten more comments on the former than the latter and I think I'm a pretty proportional gal. Just my experience.

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:56pm

I hate when I'm out walking and guys honk at me.

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 3:05pm

>>Maybe this man said this to you in some friendly way, I don't know. <<

No - it made me feel instantly sick to my stomach.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 3:06pm

First in defense of men, they really do believe they are being flattering and thanks to the countless women who leave nothing to the imagination, this generation of men feel there is nothing wrong with acknowledging physical attractability.....

Now with that being said, I think men will never get just how low it makes a woman feel to constantly be treated like a piece of meat....

I am a long time member of the big bootie club and as much as I do want men to find me attractive, I think there is a fine line between complimentary and vulgar.....

I have had men say, "You are something special from the back girl" I laughed, they laughed and it was all good, no harm no foul....

Then I have had men, say the nastiest things to me about my rear end or my body parts in general and you walk away feeling verbally violated......

I know the "power of my body" if you will and understand that some men will say anything...

But what men fail to realize is that we live in a very, very dangerous world now and I am sure that the OP was a tad frightened that a man pulled up next to her while she was walking her dog.....

Many a woman has been hurt or kidnapped that way and it's just not a safe thing to do nowadays.....

I was walking my dog and a man pulled up next to me to ask me about the dog......

Scared the "beejeebers" out of me because I was trying to speed up when I saw him slowing down,but of course feet can't beat rubber wheels....

I could offer up a ton of reasons why I think this man resorted to this behavior but I am sure he knew he was wrong and that's why he drove off so fast....

As frustrating and even humiliating as it was, look on the bright side.....

You have a great rear end!! Many women wish they had the same!!

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 3:10pm

>>You have a great rear end!! Many women wish they had the same!!<<

The funny thing is, I have almost no rear end. I come from a long line of buttless people. :)

fruitedplain, I posted a pic for you. Of my puppy. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 3:22pm
Where is yours?
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 3:32pm

I must be dreaming. Did cfk_3 actually write to me ?? Cannot be. Must be an optical illusion. Someone tell me if the previous message to fruitedplain was from cfk_3.

For the 1% chance it was, my pic was posted when I first joined the forum. Its been taken off since.

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