What to do?
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| Tue, 10-23-2007 - 8:38pm |
I recently met this guy and we really hit it off. We started talking 2 or 3 nights a week for like 3 or 4 hours at a time. We talked about relationships, family, movies, things we like to do, everything! He would make comments like how cute my laugh was and do little things like touch my hand and so on. I finally asked him out on a date and we had a really good time. A few days ago, I saw him and asked what was going on between us and he said that he just wanted to be friends and nothing more. He said that he was still getting over his last girlfriend and didn't want to start a new relationship. At first I was extremely upset about all this but after thinking about it for a while, I decided that being friends was better than having nothing with him. I just ran into him tonight and it was so awkward! He pretty much directed the conversation toward one of the friends I was with and kept looking at her to avoid eye contact with me. But then I would look away and notice that he would glance over at me. I really want to be friends with him, but I don't know how to make things go back to like they were. Should I wait for him to make contact with me when he’s ready? Or should I go and try to talk to him and act like nothing happened? I’ve talked to some of my girlfriends about it and they say to give him time, because maybe he does like me and does want to start something but is just freaked about me doing everything. What should I do?

I don't want to dash your hopes, but the just being friends thing is a common way to back out of a relationship and may not even want a friendship.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
This guy has told you he wants to be friends and not have a relationship. I would take him at his word. When someone tells you who they are, believe them! Even if a guy is freaked out or whatever, if he is really into a girl, it won't matter, he'll ask her out. Since he's not doing that, in fact even after all of your interaction, you asked him out, that is a sign that he does not really want anything romantically with you. Sorry to say it, but I would just move on and next this guy. There are way too many guys at there that WILL want to have a romantic relationship with you!
Good luck,
YG
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YG
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