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| Tue, 12-05-2006 - 4:02am |
(I thought I submitted this earlier, but apparently not.)
I am annoyed by this. Would like some input on how you'd handle the ongoing issue of this.
I have a guy friend. He's only a friend. He dated someone I work with before I knew either one. They only briefly saw each other and it was casual. So, now, she out of the blue annouced it one day, she's given me the sordid details of his divorce, told me he's not capable of a relationship, and the final straw was that she dropped a bomb that he's gay. At first, I believed her, but after about an hour of thinking about it, it seemed a lot more like she has a problem with me being around him. I tactfully asked him about her. I only mentioned the dating part. He filled me in on the rest. He said everytime she's around him she practically rapes him (his words), and that finally to get her to back off, one night, he told her he was gay. It backfired. She showed up the next day, wanting to discuss it at full length.
So, while I don't work with her face to face, day after day, I do have to communicate with her + we're in a same civic group. I have stopped talking to her at all except for business. I thought about mentioning it. I am not a coward and afraid of her, but she'd twist it around and blow it out of proportion. I just don't feel like I can trust her at all. Anyone have to deal with personal and professional stickiness mixed together? Help!

AJ, enjoying life with C.