What do I do?!?!?

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Registered: 07-29-2003
What do I do?!?!?
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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 11:57pm
Ok, so a guy I graduated with in high school back in '99 I never knew (knew who he was) asked me out recently while we were out with mutual friends(our first time meeting, briefly talked.) He had called about a week after we met leaving a message asking if I wanted to do something with him later in the week(this was on Sun.) I left him a message(Mon) letting him know I was available Thurs or Fri(this week.) He called me back later in the day asking if I wanted to go out that evening to meet him and his friends, but I told him I had to study for a test. The conversation was very short b/c it sounded like he had to go so I told him to have fun and he wished me luck on my test. That was the extent of our conversation. We never made any definate plans and I haven't heard back from him. Do you think maybe he changed his mind b/c I may have been too short with him or there was a misunderstanding? Should I call tomorrow to see if he still wanted to hang out? Or should I leave it alone and see if he calls me then at least I know he is still truley interested. By the way I am really shy and in high school he was Mr. Popularity and I was a band nerd, lol. I know we're adults now, but still any advice would be great!
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 11:14am
If I were you, I'd let this slide and presume my normal life as if we hadn't talked. But I might be biased since I've been raised to be more on the conservative side (and yes I have second guessed my decisions numerous times). I am actually trying very hard to apply this very same advice on myself, so I know how hard it is :( :(.
Lots of hugs,
icuryy
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 11:18am
Definitly call him. A man loves a woman with confidence, and since you were shy in high school, this will show him how you have changed into a more outgoing and confident woman.
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Registered: 07-29-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 12:00pm
Well guess what, I called his sister. I explained to her the situation and she said he is shy as well, lol. One of my best friends also told me I should call him. So, I guess his sister talked to him, he called me, and we went out last night! We're probably going out again tonight as well. He's a really nice guy. Now I'm just nervous b/c as I said I am shy and he was popular, I'm just afraid what his "popular" friends would think of us going out if it does work out. I know I should be myself and not worry about it, but how do I cope with it? Thanks!