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What do I think?
| Tue, 03-21-2006 - 8:00am |
There is this band, I’ve seen them 3 times (those married have a great reputation and I haven’t seen them flirt). The second time I went, the drummer was only looking at me the entire night (eventhough I was with my boyfriend at the time) I moved across the room, he turned his head and was glancing at me. That was a 6 months ago, last Thursday I went to the show (I’m single and went to 2 female friends), I was placed sitting 2 tables away from the band; I walked over, introduced myself and the drummer had all smiles; I realized he recognized me. I was sitting left of the stage, and as he played, he turned his head left and kept glancing at me. Then as I was in front of the stage, he was glancing and staring at me for at least a few seconds the entire night. After the show, while waiting for a cab with my friends, they started to pack their gear; he went inside and my friends were walking to the cab, I paused, look back and saw him walk out, he walks towards me, gives me a hug and a kiss…we spoke for a few (turns out we’re from the same neighborhood) and I asked if it would be too forward of me to give him my e-mail address; he said it wasn’t being forward at all. He started to tell me why he moved from our neighborhood and said that we’ll talk more about that later. I gave him my e-mail, we hugged each other tight, gave each other a kiss on the cheek and as we were letting go of the hug, our arms were still holding on while sliding off…to the point where we were holding hands as we were walking away. Having said all that, there was apparent interest...but it’s Tuesday and I haven’t received an e-mail. Is this a guy thing or was he just not interested?

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Okay, I haven't chimed in yet because I'm in alomst EXACTLY the same situation, only my musician is a guitar player, and we've had slightly more contact, and I'm friends with the rest of the band, and very good friends with the "band wives".
Here's my take: Go to the next show, but wait for him to come to you... don't approach him. If he does, great, there's your answer. If not, you can still have fun and dance and whatever without looking like an idiot or depserate. And there's your answer.
For me, guitar player is into me, but I don't know if he's that into me. We did have a date schedulled for last week, but he cancelled it b/c of a thing with his daughter, and hasn't contacted me since (I may have been a little harsh) sooo, when I see him at his gig on Friday, we'll see how it goes.
Meanwhile, keep us posted, and I'll do the same!
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No, your going to look like a superstar, nails and hair done and your cutest outfit. Give him the benefit of the doubt that he simply does not have computer access or is busy working a regular job when he isn't performing.
Did he seem on the shy side? He could honestly be shy. If nothing comes of your next visit than move along and chalk it up to it just wasn't meant to be.
Goodness only knows why these men do what they do!!! There is just no rhyme or reason to them sometimes. I'm sure they say the very same about us lol.
-Jen
xoxo
I'm laughing so much...seriously, thanks for replying. Yes, he seems shy...when I was outside by myself is when he approached me. What is really nice is that when I first approached him, he saw my cross...then then gets on stage, takes off his sweatshirt and when I noticed, he didn't have his cross outside of his shirt (that was underneath his sweatshirt), then I turn my head again and there it is.
I will try to look my absolute best :)
YAY you must come post and let us all know how it went!!! I have my fingers crossed. He is probably shy or doesn't have access to the internet.
and what about this: MAYBE HE LOST IT!!! he is a musician afterall, sometimes they are unorganized creatures.
What if he lost the damn thing and is kicking his own butt over it. Probably dying and hoping that you'll be at the next show???
Let us know hun!!
-Jen
xoxo
I really don't want to come across as cynical or negative, but I really don't think this guy is interested.
I don't mean to get all girl power here but who cares what he thinks you look like?
There are only 2 options here, both of which serve you:
#1- he thinks you look hot, wonders what the heck he was doing by not emailing you and he asks you out right then and there.
or, #2- he doesn't notice, he was only flirting and he has another 50 irons in the fire... in which case, he was never good enough for you in the first place.
Go see the band if you like the music. Don't go with expecatations based on a man you don't know.
I won't even get into the whole musician thing... a few of the girls around here know that I'm a little biased when it comes to them. :-)
I agree with you Shy. It's funny the way women come up with all types of reasons why a man doesn't call/write but refuse to accept the most logical-"He isn't interested".
Chickie, you offered him your e-mail address and he accepted it. If he was seriously interested and didn't have computer access he would have said, "Give me your phone number instead".
The hardest part to dating is having the nerve to ask a woman for her number/e-mail. You made it simple by offering it him. Men don't play "games" with women they are "into", he would have found a way to write to you. STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM!
Hey everyone,
I do like their music, and when I go out (in general) I always try to look my best…Thing is, I came out of a 3 year relationship, so this is all very new to me. This guy seemed interested…the band play in bars and I’m always in view and he always stares/glances at me and no other woman in the bar this is for the past 2 shows (I’ve been to 3 shows), then literally approaches me the moment he sees me alone outside…I assumed he was shy. When I go to their next show, I’ll simply say “hello” from a distance and smile…if he comes over to me, talks to me and asks for my # I’ll get the idea he is interested. If he doesn’t for whatever reason (not interested or too shy) then realize he’s just a flirt and I’ll explore being single : )
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