What to Do With the Not Into You Guy?

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Registered: 05-19-2003
What to Do With the Not Into You Guy?
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 11:39am

What to Do With the Not Into You Guy?



  • Continue dating him and try and spark that interst back again.
  • Tell him flat out he's lost interest, it isn't good enough and dump him.
  • Downgrade him to casual status and explore other options.
  • Other (please explain).


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Registered: 11-16-2006
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 11:47pm
Did you text him back? I hope you didn't. Turn the tables on him. Make him wonder what YOU are upto, and what YOU are thinking. I would recommend a game plan of not returning texts at all, returning phone calls no sooner that than 3 days, when you call no speaking for more than 7 mins before saying 'gotta jet'. And meanwhile go out and have fun..actually, go out and have a blast.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 7:47am

Ha ha! That is exactly what my game plan is: go on with life and stop making him a top priority just as he's done me.

Nope! Didn't text back. And when he called last night and left a message to see how my weekend went, I was too busy to take the call and I think I maybe too busy today as well. And I actually am, I have plans with another guy straight after work.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 10:10am

UPDATE!

I broke up with him yesterday. After much consideration, I realized that if this is where is he at only 4 months and this is his regular comfort level, then this will never work because he does not show me the level of interest I show, nor does he make me feel wanted, desired or important to him. It's not enough.

So I called him and let him know that while I saw great potential in the beginning when he was bringing it and showing it hardcore, since he's gotten "comfortable" and began failing to show genuine interest, I no longer see real relationship potential in him and that it was over. He tried to give me every lame-o excuse for why he didn't call on weekends (his AC wasn't working) and even claimed to have asked about my plans on Memorial weekend (which never happened, he must have confused me with some other chick he really asked), my mind was made up.

Done with!

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