What Do Think of Therapy???

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Registered: 04-13-2004
What Do Think of Therapy???
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Sun, 01-29-2006 - 11:37pm

What Do Think of Therapy???



  • It works and was the best thing I ever did for myself!
  • It's pure crap!!!
  • I thought about going, but I'm too scared, nervous, prideful....etc.
  • I want to go, one day.
  • Not really sure


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Registered: 04-13-2004
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 11:43pm
I was just thinking of this and wondered what most people felt about going into therapy. I am working full time, but also in grad school for Clincal Counseling. I have always been really interested in Psychology and the related and made a decision to change my career, once I am out of school. I personally think that most could benefit from therapy at some point of their lives. I personally have never gone, but it is demanded in our classes to open up and reveal personal parts of our lives that might bother us, in order to help train our classmates and vice versa. I love it, helping others and opening up, too. I just wondered if it has helped anyone or how most feel about it.
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Registered: 12-23-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 12:08am
It was extremely helpful to me. I am codependent and was in a bad marriage. Therapy helped me realize I needed to take care of myself and the only to do that, for me, was to leave the relationship. I felt so much better on my own. Therapy also helped me deal with my control issues. I have other things I still need to address so I have been planning to go back in the near future. I have actually set up counseling for my son. His father is an addict, supposedly in recovery, who has attempted suicide twice. The most recent attempt was just before Xmas. Not easy for 15 yo to have to deal with on top of hormones, being freshman in HS, etc. Hope if my son has a place in which to share his feelings it will help him learn healthy coping skills for the future as well as his current situation. Good topic.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:00am

I commend you for helping your son this way. All too often people put it off.

I've never been in therapy myself but I know people who wouldn't be who they are today without it. I do believe it works, especially for people who are willing to face and deal with themselves emotionally.

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Registered: 12-13-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:48am

my option wasn't there... "I've been to therapy (alot) and still undecided if it is all it's cracked up to be".

I've gone to therapy most of my life... as a child we went as a family - as an adult I've been going for myself. I thought my first therapist, that I went to for 5 years, was great - till I started with my new therapist a year ago. There are definitely different kinds of therapy. And I could have gone to the first therapist for YEARS and never uncovered all the stuff this new therapist has shown me, things like repeating patterns in my life and until you identify the patterns, why they exist and what you need to do to change them... you'll keep repeating them... just as I was while going to the first therapist and while her therapy was aimed at getting me well... she didn't have NEARLY the tools needed to get me there (and she'd been a practicing therapist for YEARS). The lady I'm with now seems to have the inside skinny on so much about relational patterns and unhealthy life skills. While most of the time I don't like what she has to say (because obviously we don't like to hear that we aren't perfect) I know what she is saying is true and until I fix some of these things - I'm not going to get better.

Right now though... I'm having an EXTREMELY hard time because I can't seem to see the things she is showing me, I don't know how to do the things she's suggesting. It's like, when you've operated in your life this way for your whole life - doing things differently and seeing how to approach things in a healthy way... they don't make sense and sure as heck don't come easy for you. I don't understand the things she says. not because they don't make sense... OBVIOUSLY the fact that I have a hard time relating to those around me steams from the fact that I've been conditioned to take things personally and not be tolerant of differences. BUT living it... knowing when I'm in those situations, and knowing what to do and how to handle myself not coming so easy... so I can go to therapy every week - shell out the money and talk about it till I'm blue in the face... WHEN do I start to feel like I can approach those situations, KNOW when I'm in them, and handle myself appropriately!?!?!?! Obviously this is just ONE example in a whole list of things I'm working on! :p

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 11:29am
The difference between an okay therapist and a great one, is insight. Some people have it and some people don't at all. Keep up the hard work!!! Sounds like you are with the right therapist now. Sounds like she makes you see the reality of your life and thought patterns. One day, doing what you know is best for you, will come. One day at a time.
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Registered: 02-05-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:18pm

i am all for therapy....it helped me and i am so greatful. I haven't been going for a while, needed a break, but i plan on goin' back sometime. I have a sis-n-law who is a clinical psychologist and i would never dare put her career down...after all, if you studies freud you would see that therapy is how we cope with everyday issues...even if you don't go to a therapist...you can therapist your own life when you make a decision to do or not to do something because of the reasons you have.