What do you see sexy in a man?

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What do you see sexy in a man?
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:33pm

So you are single, you like to date and etc. What do you see sexy in a man?

While looking online and in magazines. There are tons of magazines like Maxim & FHM, but they are for men? What gives? Do you would you like to have a magazine like that see check out hot guys?

I also see online there are video bloggers and podcasters that are voted to be 'top hot women', but I never see anything for 'top hot men'? Would you like to see that too?

What gives? Do you women just not like that don't look at a magazine, watch a video blogger, or listen to a podcast because the person is not attractive (aka "hot") to them.

Sex sells and gets attraction to people to check things out and stir up interests.

So what do you seen man that is sexy that stirs up your interest to find out more? It is the looks, personality, everything or what? Give some good details!!

Nick Schmidt
Schmult.com

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:53pm

>>"you are SO cute, you make me blush and feel shy! but make me look again!!"<<

So true! It's amazing how a man who strikes an interest in me can make me feel 14 again and I get all shy and nervous. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:55pm

>>so explain when you left the guy see the eye contact..
and what do you do that is so flirty?<<

If I'm feeling bold, I'll make eye contact and hold it as we walk by each other. The flirty part is either looking away and looking back, or a bit of a flash in the eye that I can't explain.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:01pm

>>yea im not going to do that lame line about helping me find something for my sister/niece/friend that is a girl.. or whatev<<

I had a guy approach me in Whole Foods. We had both tried the chocolate cake sample and I smiled at him and crossed the room. He caught up with me and commented on how good the cake was. I smiled, agreed.

It was great - and it did make my day, I was beaming after that - but then he chickened out and bailed. I could not have been more open to the advance, but I just think he couldn't think of what to say next (and neither could I).

Point is, it doesn't matter how you start the conversation - just start it. And don't run once you do. :)

P.S. From your last question... I live in Denver.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:26pm
yea that eye flash always happens .. that is just typical, but hard to take it to the next step
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 2:28pm

Cool.. I'm coming to Denver sometime this summer to visit some friends.

The cake comment with the dude. Is casual and normal.. which I would be fine with.. so i just seems like I have to hide back and wait for a hot chick to go up and try it at the same time!!

LOL

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:37pm
It wasn't really an accident that I ended up at the sample tray the same time he did. ;)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 5:05pm

>>Testosterone levels greatly influence our visual response. Since you are taller than average (5'9"), your relatively higher testosterone level (yes, women have testosterone too) could be making you more visually responsive than the average woman. I knew a woman I used to work with (regrettably not in a Biblical way), late twenties/early thirties, below average height, skinny and somewhat frail, who said who used to get positively grossed out by the sight of naked men, pictures or otherwise. Not hard to figure why.

Ahh, but I'm 4'11" and it doesn't bother me...probably a little too much info, but I also have a high drive, too, though maybe that has something to do with it...who knows.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 5:24pm

Don't sweat it. I've yet to see any reputable studies that show testosterone levels in women have anything to do with height.

Post menopausal women with intact ovaries tend to run with higher testosterone levels. But it has nothing to do with height.


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Registered: 05-05-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:30pm

>but I just think he couldn't think of what to say next (and neither could I).

That's a million dollar question. How many potential relationships have failed to take off just because people didn't know what to say next ? And then backed off just to avoid the uncomfortable silence. Ha ha . Happens all too often.

Smoothly continuing a conversation with a stranger is an ART and a skill. Takes years to learn. Anybody can talk endlessly with people they know.. just watch any airhead with a cellphone. But how many can do that with people they DON"T know, and not come across as boring, tiresome, conceited or just a pain ?

Read the best book there is on the subject called "Making people talk" by Barry Farber. It's hard to find so check your local library. Also watch how the experts do it. One of the best out there is Dave Letterman. I don't just watch Dave Letterman interviewing his guests, I *study* them.




Edited 6/20/2007 7:39 pm ET by fruitedplain
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 12:42am

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what city are you in? what are you going to chicago for?>>

it's probably well enough that most of the little eye flirting episodes don't go any farther than that. to me, they're just one of life's little pleasures. and i have a bf, so noticing a cute guy is still fun, but i don't really want it to go beyond that.

that said, i think my *fantasy* of what would happen after the fleeting eye contact in target (e.g. in the shampoo aisle) would be something like:
as i crouch down to find the best bargain attached to the best scent, a see a handsome man at the end of the row, probably hustling to another aisle (shaving cream, bleach? who knows). but, he sees me as i am frozen in noticing him, and our eyes meet for a brief moment. suddenly his plans for shaving cream or bleach are interrupted, and he perhaps awkwardly halts his hustle and turns his attention to the shampoo, slyly eying me all the while. maybe after a moment, he says something silly like "so many choices! how do you decide?" (i don't know - i'm horrible at that). the fact is, it doesn't matter what he says, because i'm terribly giddy just that he noticed me. he somehow powers past my awkward banter and says how strange it might sound, but he would love to share coffee with me sometime ...

another funny target story: one day i pulled into a parking spot just as another car pulled into the one opposite me. our eyes met, while in our cars, and we kept it up for a bit as we got out. we lost each other once we got to the store, but when i came out to my car, there was a little note on the windshield. it said something like "we should have run into each other earlier" and he gave his phone number. man!! that sure made my day :)

i'm in calif., and i'm visiting chicago to see a friend who's going to northwestern. should be fun! i'll be there for fourth of july, and i'm hoping to see some fireworks over the lake ...

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