What do you think?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
What do you think?
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 11:28am

I met this guy in a party 2 months ago. He contacted me through a friend's email list and we talked online since then. A month later, he asked me to hang out with him, however, he invited me to his apartment for hanging out. I rejected because I told him I don't feel comfortable and may something else would happen. However, he asked me to hang out but I already made plans with friend so he said he'd like to meet after it. (long story short)I asked him to come out to meet me but we just saw each other for 5 mins because my friends wanted to go watch movies and he watched it already, so I left him to go watch movie. Later, we talked online sometimes, I asked him to join couple parties with us, he couldn't come. Last weekend, he asked me to go clubbing with his friend and I was tired so I didn't go...I really confused about this..My friends told me he only wants to get laid, be careful. We did talk a lot about sex, and he wanted to have it with me I told him I can't do it on first couple dates, so he asked when I will.....

What do you guys think? What should I do?

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 11:55am

He's turned down all your offers to do something out and about (movies, parties, etc.) and only seems to be available when he wants you to "hang out" at his house.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 1:31pm
I agree with Stacy. It makes me so angry when guys think that they can do this and use us for sex. But we do have the power to decide what we want to do and walk away and tell them where to shove it.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 2:15pm
Yes, I know it's obviously. And it's bad for me to get start with for a long run. However, i am confused because he kept saying I am assuming things. We doesn't know each other well, his first intension was not to have sex until I'd like to but just to hang out as friend and staying at his apartment won't cause any sexual activities. So maybe i think too much, should just hang out with him to see what he really wants, how he acts, etc?? But at same time I don't really want to waste both our time if he ONLY wants sex......
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 3:08pm

If he hadn't said anything about wanting to have sex right away and asked you when the two of you could have sex, then MAYBE his comments would be plausible. But given those facts, I think you would be beyond naive to believe that he wouldn't try anything if you were to go to his house. I think he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear in order to get what he wants.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 7:22pm

Any guy who is trying to determine how "easy" you are is after sex.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:42pm

Hello dayaftertomorrow,

Listen to your friends, they usually know whats best for you and what you have said about this guy, I think they are right. I think all he wants to do in get into your pants. Just go out and find a nice guy.

Good luck!!

Julia

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 2:12pm

"his first intension was not to have sex until I'd like to but just to hang out as friend and staying at his apartment won't cause any sexual activities."


They ALL say, "Come on over, we don't have to have sex.