What do you think guys look for?

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Registered: 01-20-2006
What do you think guys look for?
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:07am

I was thinking last night that I don't feel like a very good "specimen" for guys to date! ROTFL What I mean is, while I'm pretty good looking, have an education and a good sense of humor - it seems my lack of bachelor's degree makes me feel less than (I have an associates but blah).

Do you think (on average) guys want a girl who has completed her bachelor's degree?

What other qualities do you think guys truly want in a girl - a girl to marry!?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:10am

From what I have seen in men's profiles from online dating, not all of them are looking for someone with a degree. It seems to matter less to men than it does to women.

(I mention OLD just because that's where I have seen the largest cross-section sample of men).

I think the bigger issue is whether you feel good about yourself, your career choices and your life. I think it will matter more to someone that you feel good about your path than what kind of degree you hold.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:33am
I look for women that are sexy and obedient. Having a good education is OK but they must be able to cook.
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Registered: 01-20-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:46am
should I come with my own collar? or do you have a universal one to fit all your maids?
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 11:23am
Is your collar made from real leather?
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 1:37pm

While leather collars have their place and time, I think there are a few things I look for before the collar gets involved.

As far as education, that is less important to me than intelligence. Yes, there is often a connection, but not always. I want an intelligent woman. I like a woman that can handle herself in almost any social situation. Some 'educated' people think certain other people are beneath them. That won't fly for me.

I need a woman with some serious communication skills. Can she talk to me when things are great? Heck, that is easy. I want a woman that can talk to me when I am upset or sad. I'd like it if she can tell me what is bothering her when she is sad or upset.

Self-confidence is also very sexy. Don't be a jerk about it, just be quietly confident.

It would be wonderful if that confidence and those communication skills didn't disappear when we were in the bedroom. Leather collar is optional. Maybe we'll take turns. ;)

I also want a sense of humor. I like a woman that can be silly, as well as serious. If you can't be silly once in a while we will not get along. If you can only be silly we won't get along well.

So much of attraction is about self-awareness. I like a woman who knows who she is and what makes her tick. She does not have to be perfect, but I want her to know her faults and flaws, as well as her great points.

I doubt that helps you, but I thought I could give you a small glimpse into my mind and heart. Maybe something I said will help. Good luck!!!

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:21pm
Hehehe - good to see you around again, Hal.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:52pm

While this thread has taken an interesting turn, I think it's evidence that asking "what are guys looking for?" is like asking "what's your favorite food?" You're going to get all kinds of different answers from all kinds of different people.

My point being, what some can't live without has never occured to others.

The key here is to look for the same qualities in yourself as you do a partner. If you're living up to your own standards it will be obvious to those you meet.

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Registered: 01-20-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:40pm

"Is your collar made from real leather?"

if you want it to be! :p

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Registered: 01-20-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:42pm

teacher guy -

your post was VERY helpful and insightful! Thank you for taking the time to post it! :) The stuff you said was nonsuperficial and that's super cool!

Thanks!

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Registered: 01-20-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:43pm

"You're going to get all kinds of different answers from all kinds of different people."

That's fine - that's what I was looking for! :)

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