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| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 10:34am |
So i saw that guy I've been asking about here on saturday. I called him after this party I went to at about 7pm (as planned) and he came over. we'd both eaten already. We decided to go for a walk by the beach. So we did that for about an hour or so, then we came back to my place and watched a movie. Hardly any touching took place at all throughout it...so at the end we kissed and he said he was going to leave. Last time we stayed in the same bed. I was feeling a little weird and i guess he could tell. He said that he didnt want me to think that all he was into was just hooking up with me...i said, is that all you think i'm into and he laughed and said no. We kept kissing...he had told me earlier in the night a little on the walk that he feels like i am confusing...i dont know how i have been. He said in terms of when we make plans he feels like i am...like i question whether we're still doing something, even though it's already been said that we have been.
So tonight before he left i got a little bold and told him outrihgt that i get confused as to whether he wants to see me again after each date. He was confused and said, really? i said, YES. He asked if it would make me feel more comfortable if we just went ahead and made plans for tuesday. I stupidly said, no! because i didnt want to seem annoying. He said he does want to see me again and if he didnt he would tell me...so that made me feel better. He then told me that i'm welcome to come hang out at his place after work whenever (i work close to where he lives) so he seemed suprised about my uncertainty....but i dont think he was that clear with me...i told him that he doenst seem to like to make plans, he said he thought it seemed clear that he wanted to see me again. Confusion! so i did want him to stay (ho that i am i guess) but he said he thought it would be best if he left. So i walked him out, and asked who would call who next. He said we are past that stage and it shouldnt matter. So i guess i am not going to worry about it. He said he'd see me soon. We kissed goodbye, several times. So i'm glad we talked about it...i wished he would have stayed...but the last time things got pretty hot and heavy, no sex...so maybe he was thinking that would happen again and it may have 'frustrated' him. So that's it...he said he likes me and wants to see me again. AFter 3 weeks and all this confusion i guess that's all i can ask for. I appreciated that he asked if it would make me more comfortable if we just set up a date now...but i didnt want to seem annoying...

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So what part are you confused about? I think it means you're worrying yourself to death over nothing! lol He has made it clear he likes you and he wants more than just to hook up with you. He has also made it clear you can call and come over whenever you feel like (he said you're past the stage of "who calls who" and that you're welcome to his place any time). I don't think you should worry so much about planning a date since he's made it obvious a surprise meeting wouldn't be such a bad thing. Who knows? Maybe that's something he finds appealing and why he avoids setting up a date. :)
Edit: Oh yeah, he also asked if you wanted to set up a date so he doesn't seem to have a problem with setting one up if you want. Are you confused about what to do next? If I were you and I really wanted to see him again, I'd take up his offer on coming over to his place when I could. It wouldn't be weird since he likes you and said it was fine with him.
Edited 7/17/2006 11:38 am ET by amy_eff
I think you are confusing.
"He then told me that i'm welcome to come hang out at his place after work whenever"
I don't think it matters to him when you come over. If you're really worried about it, just call ahead of time and make sure it's okay. Don't stress out about it! He made it clear he'd like to see you again and he does like you. I don't think he'll get upset over someone he really likes showing up unannounced on his doorstep.
I can see why he thinks you're confusing--because you are! Why can't you just be *straight* with him about what you want? It sounds like you are afraid to be yourself and to be *honest* with him. Why is that? If he's right for you, you're not going to scare him off by being yourself. Conversely, if you behave a certain way because you don't want to seem "annoying", that could end up being MORE annoying, because here he is trying hard to figure out how to please you and you're shooting him down!
I don't know...I'd be pretty frustrated and confused if I were in his shoes. You say one thing and then do another. I think that when he calls again, you should just be straight with him and don't be so afraid to be yourself.
Sheri
Then it doesn't happen and life goes on.
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