What does sex have to do with respect?

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Registered: 12-07-2006
What does sex have to do with respect?
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Mon, 02-26-2007 - 3:40pm

When it comes to either casual sex or sleeping with man they’re dating really soon after they started seeing each other, it seems that most women are dead set against it. When asked why, they say that they don’t do it because they want to be respected.

That makes no sense to me. Why would you fear being DISrespected? Why is respect even an issue? You might as well be saying “I don’t want to sleep with him too soon because I don’t want him to think I’m a space alien.”

Are you afraid of being called a “whore” or a “slut”? Because I have never heard a man (who wasn’t a 50 year old Evangelist nutcase) complain about a girl sleeping with them too soon or being too promiscuous. No man has ever said “Ew, you want to sleep with me ALREADY? What are you, some whore?” In fact, I’ve rarely ever heard a man use “whore” or “slut” as an insult, and when they do, it usually has nothing to do with the sex life of the woman they’re using it against.

So that said, why are so many women against casual sex or sleeping with a guy they started seeing right away? Why can't they be happy that they can, at will, find almost any willing sexual partner who's willing to leave it at sex and not bring in any entangling drama or complications?

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 8:00pm

It's a double standard. Women are considered sluts if they sleep around, men are (sometimes wrongly) considered studs.

From reading your posts however, it seems that any woman who rejects you is also sensible.

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