What is he thinking???
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| Thu, 03-02-2006 - 9:15am |
I emailed my ex earlier this week. We broke up about 2 months ago after a 2 year relationship and decided that we wanted to stay friends since we had gotten to know each other so well and most of our other good friends live out of town. Our schedules have always been so different and we had missed several of each other's calls so I just emailed him to invite him to come watch my dog and I compete in our second agility trial this weekend. Here's his reply:
"Hello! How are you this week? It is beautiful outside for now but what will the weekend look like? What day and time is your agility stuff in Hutto this weekend? I would love to come see you and the little one, I guess anything to get a chance to see you naked one more time. You just let me know whats going on and I will give it a shot. I just hope you don't have to be there at 8 AM. Everything else is ok here. I am so sick of the landloard. I recieved a letter from him about the house and appliances to be fixed. He has no idea how to be a landloard and it is realy taking a toll. Anyway I look forward to seeing you again "naked" so just let me know what the plan is. Talk to you soon."
Now we had a couple strange weeks when he seemed to act like we were still dating and I made it clear to him that if we were going to be just friends there would be no more physical part of our relationship b/c I didn't want to get hurt or feel led on. He kept coming over and kissing me or wanting to fool around and I ended up breaking down and crying and really upset one day when he was over b/c of all this. We talked for a little while and he said that he didn't want to hurt me and other stuff. Since then it hasn't been a problem but now this email saying he wants to see me naked again - what's that supposed to mean???? Why does he have to be so confusing?
Trina

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I don't doubt that's what he was thinking with those comments. Guess my title was more asking what is he thinking of actually saying that to me - not so much what do the words actually mean.
Anyway - just thought I'd update with his response to me asking him why he adding in the comments:
"Ok, calm down. First off I am sorry, I did not mean to confuse you. I do care about you, I have always found you attractive and I am sure that is where the comments came from. I did not mean anything by what I put in the email other than kidding around. We were going to be on a field with dogs and people. Again I am sorry. I don't what you to be on an emotional rollercoaster. I guess my timing is off. I understand it is going to take more time and space for us to be able to be friends. I will pay more attention and this will never happen again."
I don't want to never talk to him again but I also understand that I need more time to get over the relationship and hopefully now he realizes it. Thanks again for everyone's opinions, it's nice to see what other people think about.
Trina
It was definitely inappropriate, whether joking or not, especially now that we've ended our relationship. In the first two weeks after we broke up I was really confused and thought that maybe he didn't understand that everything was over, because of how he acted and then I got really upset with him and we had a talk and I thought we had everything cleared up. He gave me my key back before I asked too so I figured he realized it at least by then. Plus when he told me that there was no passion anymore and that he felt neither of us was in love with the other I figured that would be a clue to himself that it's over.
Trina
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