What makes you a "cougar"....

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What makes you a "cougar"....
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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 10:34am

Is it pursuing a man who is younger than you or being over 35 and pursuing a man you are interested in......


Let me make this as short as possible. There is this "sexy chocolate" man that works with me........


Needless to say, I am seriously "feigning" for him. So, I wrote him a letter just asking to get to know him better outside of work and that we could keep things discrete and professional at work.....


He hasn't responded yet, but it dawned on me that I may be exhibiting "cougar" behavior......


What do you all think, was I too forward?? He has an awesome personality and frankly is very kind and helpful to me in my classroom........


Maybe I am just so "needy" that I latched on to the first guy who showed me interest but I am not getting any younger and he's the first guy in a long time who thinks and acts on my level......


Did I mention we are one day apart in age?? I don't know, maybe I just need to take my butt home and leave him alone, I mean he could reject me,which is fine, no harm, no foul..........


Let me know what you think?? Am

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:16pm

Thanks again!! I have been pursued and done the pursuing and guess what I am still single!!


Who's to say what really works!! Hey, it's a shot in the dark. We have to take chances in this world.....


I do appreciate all the help ladies. I personally like the cougar identity, it's better than desperate old maid, which is what some people think of women over 35..........


I just wasn't sure on the rules. Seeing as how I am not 20 anymore, didn't want to seem like I was "pouncing" on the man.....(even though I would like to, hehehehehehehe)


GT36

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 2:40pm

I've never heard the term before either. I'm still not entirely sure I understand it now even after reading all these posts.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 2:44pm

Here's an article that appeared in one of our weekly newspapers this summer that describes it in more detail (sorry, the photo is tasteless--well, one could argue the entire article is ;-)):


http://www.seattleweekly.com/2007-08-08/news/northwest-cougars-hunt-and-are-hunted-by-younger-men.php


Sheri


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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:15pm
I think the definition of a cougar changes by area too. Like up here it means a super hot chick in her 30's that goes for younger men but in other areas of the country it can be kind of a derogatory term.

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Deirdre

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:23pm

Thanks for the education!

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:25pm

Well, either that term hasn't reached the DC area, or I've just been totally oblivious to it!


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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:28pm

Oh, I think it's always a derogatory term...at least I've never heard it used in a complimentary way.


On the other hand, I get kind of a twisted satisfaction from being called a milf. LOL


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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:51pm

The term has arrived in Virginia Beach, and I think it is the young men who are using it more than the ladies which is why some of you may be unfamiliar with it.


I guess it's like any term. The connotation lends more to its meaning.


When my 29 yr old called me 'his cougar' it was used playfully when we were alone. Who's to say he hasn't used that

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 7:04pm

Haha this is an interesting discussion. Funny how a word can mean different things ( or nothing at all) depending on where you are from. Here it is often used as a derogatory term to describe women from mid 30's up that tend to dress too young for their age and go out to bars to try and pick up younger guys. I realize some guys like older women, but the term cougar as I know it does not refer to a "hot" older women, rather the opposite (tasteless, trashy, etc). The main point is that she goes after MUCH younger guys (who would prefer to run in the opposite direction).

I certainly dont think the OP is considered a cougar in any way.

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:28pm

Now I am the one confused, what is a MILF and a "Dinkie"???