What Men Notice When They First Meet You

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:47pm

What Men Notice When They First Meet You



From highlights to heels, guys reveal what works--and what doesn't


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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:29pm

Hehe!! I hope you run into this author guy today.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:31pm

Oh PUH-LEEZE!


First of all, I don't wear heels. Why? Just watch Single White Female. That's why I don't wear heels. My shoes have to tie because it takes me longer to get them off and throw at a guy like this Steve Whats-his-name. If he notices shoes, then he is so far back in the closet, he's acquainted with my size 16 jeans.


Lingerie? Mr. Pooh says it's very nice... balled up by the side of his bed. I stopped spending money on the stuff, past cute underwear that matches, which I like.


My hair is long because I like it that way. I also look horrible with short hair. Glasses - can't see without them.


At the end of the day, I am the one who I go to bed with every night. And I am comfortable.


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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:24pm

Well, it's spilling over to everyone at this point. :) But mostly some of the men/boys in my life. Some of them are not the greatest (read: guy I used to date) anyway...too often I end up feeling like the other woman, even though I never go past flirting with anyone...it's that guys seem to seem to want me and flirt with me when they're otherwise attached. I won't allow myself to get involved with an attached man, but it just gets annoying, especially when I can't seem to attract a decent AVAILABLE man to go out with. Of course the taken ones obviously aren't so "decent" either. :-/

I would love to run into him today, I really would. :)

You know, so many books are written to help women "catch a man." I'd love to write a satirical book in the other direction; a serious one wouldn't sell, I don't think. :) Maybe it would....I'm not into self-help books much myself anyway, I have to say.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:26pm

>>If he notices shoes, then he is so far back in the closet, he's acquainted with my size 16 jeans.

This is another thing I noticed: the man says "wear heels" about 8 million times (by the way, I've been told by almost every guy I meet/have dated/even guy friends that being short is cute to them...obviously HEELS (though I adore them) are not going to help that matter) and in the same breath makes a big fuss about not caring about a woman's shoes. Um, HELLO?!?!

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:32pm

Maybe he thinks that women who wear heels are sluttier...ya know...the whole heels with lingerie thing! ;-)


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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:38pm

Yeah, my gaydar went off when I skimmed through this article and read the fuss over the shoe thing. Not to mention, the guy looks just a little more primped than average, KWIM? And he models? And has opinions on women's clothes? And makes a big fuss over being a man, and a stud, and a player? AND wears a shirt that reads "Bad Boys Finish First" ??!

He's gay. He's trying too hard.

But for arguement sake, let's say he's NOT gay. Let's say that he has a point. So if I get primped up, always wear heels, a sexy top, a sexy dress, do my hair just so - I might be able to get a guy just like HIM??!

Wowie. Yeah, I'll get right on that. (Rolling my eyes)

I suppose next comes getting out of bed at 4:30 in the morning to make sure my husband never, ever has to see me without my makeup on or my hair not fixed up.

What. Ever.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:52pm

The gay thing hadn't crossed my mind, simply because there are way too many men who are way too into what women look like that aren't gay.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:27pm

First of all, how do flat shoes balance out showing skin?? Balancing it out would be wearing a low-cut top or a miniskirt, not both! I wouldn't even do that in my 20's.

And you're right. I agree with some of the things he says, like dressing neatly and for your body type (a la What Not to Wear....love that show), being confident, whatever, but not solely to attract a man.

I also love that he goes cruising for women in the grocery store, that definitely cracks me up. I can just see him hiding behind shelves waiting for innocent women to pounce on. I did a little more research and found out that he's been on Oprah and something about Rachel Ray. I can't stand Oprah NOR Rachel Ray and it seems like with that audience, he's hitting the housewives who would follow Oprah off a cliff and think this Steve idiot's "adorable." Please.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 6:09pm

OK, pretty dumb article, but what can we expect from this type of article?

My opinions (I'm a guy):

High heels: I don't particularly like them. Many women wear them only on special occasions or when dressed up, so it's a nice change. But I don't care for them day-to-day.

Lingerie: I thought this article was about what men notice whent hey FIRST meet you. And who is wearing lingerie then? Anyway, I'm not really someone who gets excite by lingerie.

Hair: Yes. One of the first things I notice on a woman. Healthy thick hair is the best.

Height: I personally go for shorter women. I'm 6'1" and prefer women 5'4" and under. But that's just a matter of personal preference. Lots of guys like tall women.

He left out general body shape/curves and complexion, both of which are among the first things I notice.

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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 11:31pm