What Men Notice When They First Meet You

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What Men Notice When They First Meet You
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:47pm

What Men Notice When They First Meet You



From highlights to heels, guys reveal what works--and what doesn't


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Registered: 07-16-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 6:24am

OK, am I reading this entire thread wrong, or is the general consensus here really smth along the lines of 'take me as I am, or you're a shallow b****d not worth my time'? And by take me as I am I mean: make up is too much hassle, high heels hurt, I will eat whatever food I want in any quantities I want and if that makes me overweight deal with it, I will wear comfy clothes and not bother doing anything to my hair etc etc etc - forget the fact that you, a man, are a very visual creature, go against all the most basic human and male insticts and decide to find out about the 'inside', the 'personality' that is unsupported by 'packaging'. And if you are unwilling to do that, oh well, I will proudly and happily die alone, having maintained my principles. ?????

If you come to a restaurant, order what sounds like a very tasty dish and get something on a plate that looks very bland, unattractive and smells strange, how likely is it that you will want to taste, let alone eat up and then order again, what was brought to you, no matter how delicious it MAY have turned out to be if you tried it?

Edited 8/7/2007 8:40 am ET by yaya0788




Edited 8/7/2007 8:42 am ET by yaya0788
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:10am

>>OK, am I reading this entire thread wrong, or is the general consensus here really smth along the lines of 'take me as I am, or you're a shallow b****d not worth my time'?

No! That may be some people's point of view, but have you read the boston.com article on this meathead?? I've said myself that I believe that some of his advice is practical (and should be common sense): dress neatly and for your body type, don't be afraid to dress sexy (but classy) in appropriate situations...I don't think that necessarily means you MUST wear heels though, as long as they're nice, clean shoes. What really ticked ME off is his "I can get any woman I want" attitude and his claim that women don't like nice guys, just bad boys and that all of the men in nice shirts had no chance. What?? "You need to get in their head to get in their bed." Oh, I'm glad that's your primary motivation, buddy, that's why you're SINGLE. He says in that article that "less clothing is more." Guess what kind of man you're going to attract with THAT mentality???? You can look good, attractive, and sexy without wearing a halter top and micro-mini skirt. He also encourages men to put on fake tattoos. Um....what?? He's clearly telling men how to get cheap one-night stands (unless you want to look like even more of a wuss when the chick realizes that you've put on a tattoo from a children's cereal box), not quality relationships, again why the man is single at 43.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:13am

>again why the man is single at 43.

Exactly. You attract what you put out. So if you dress like a tart, wear the highest heels you can, wear the tartiest top and skirt you can, guess what you're going to attract? You're going to attract a guy who likes tarts.

And this advice is coming from a guy who is single. Thanks, but consider the source of the "advice." If I want a guy who wants to sleep with me and then move on to the next bim, like I said, I'll get right on that.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:23am
Yeah, and his act is still relatively "cute" now at 43, but what's he going to do as some 55 year-old creep looking up 25 year-old women's skirts in seedy bars? The man's not Hugh Hefner and his 15 minutes is fading fast, so he needs to get over himself.

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