At what point does a woman grow up . . .

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At what point does a woman grow up . . .
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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 5:08pm

. . . and start to date the good guys?

Just because a healthy, well-adjusted man doesn't provide the drama and dysfunction that a woman thinks is normal, it doesn't mean he's "boring", "unconfident". or "too nice".

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 5:58pm

I have to agree. A mature women will recognize and appreciate dating the good guys.

(Now if I could only find one of those!)

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 7:12pm

Not all women find drama and dysfunction normal.


I think a common misconception is that simply because a man is a "good guy" or "nice", he doesn't have additional flaws that may make him hard to date.

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 7:20pm

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 8:14pm

God, this is SO true. I was hung up on a nice guy for too long. I thought to myself, "wow, now this is a great guy!". And he was and still is a nice guy. But he is also stubborn, insecure, holds too many generalizations about race, gender and so on. Every realtionship he had, failed. So it does say a lot about him. Either he is dating all the WRONG girls, or he has issues himself.

As for the original question, "when do women grow up and date the nice guys?". Well that depends on the girl. If she thrives on drama, then I would say she won't settle down anytime soon. Most women who are ready to move on to something real and want a real commitment, they will stop dating the "bad boys". But there is not a specific age in common to all women.

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 8:55pm

"When do women grow up and date nice guys?"

As soon as men grow up and date women that aren't gorgeous, sexy, big boobed and dimwitted just because they're eye candy...because those are the women that are addicted to drama and disfunction...

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:09pm

"I think a common misconception is that simply because a man is a "good guy" or "nice", he doesn't have additional flaws that may make him hard to date. For example, he could hold grudges, or maybe he resents women, or maybe he tends to make sweeping generalizations about an entire gender that aren't really necessary."

LOL

I'm loving it!!!

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:17pm
Thank you for your mature and intelligent answer, cl214.


Edited 6/25/2006 9:17 pm ET by mike_209551
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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:20pm

That is good advice, carrie. Thank you.

>>>learn to let go as soon as you can so you can invest your energy in someone who's not drama-addicted.

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:26pm

I don't think so. Intelligence and character are more important to me than all of those things you listed.

On the other hand, women think that a man's shoes are his most important quality. Now then, which gender is being shallow?

>>>"When do women grow up and date nice guys?"

As soon as men grow up and date women that aren't gorgeous, sexy, big boobed and dimwitted just because they're eye candy...because those are the women that are addicted to drama and disfunction...

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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:27pm

It's unfortunate that you love misandric comments.

>>>"I think a common misconception is that simply because a man is a "good guy" or "nice", he doesn't have additional flaws that may make him hard to date. For example, he could hold grudges, or maybe he resents women, or maybe he tends to make sweeping generalizations about an entire gender that aren't really necessary."

LOL

I'm loving it!!!

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