At what point does a woman grow up . . .

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Registered: 06-25-2006
At what point does a woman grow up . . .
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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 5:08pm

. . . and start to date the good guys?

Just because a healthy, well-adjusted man doesn't provide the drama and dysfunction that a woman thinks is normal, it doesn't mean he's "boring", "unconfident". or "too nice".

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 10:27pm

Wow. 9 times out of 10, it is the woman's fault a particular relationship ended, yet the guys get blamed for it?? Come on. Are you saying that the reason all relationships end, it is mostly the woman's fault?? Just like women who date all the wrong guys, as is the topic you started, men indeed, do the same thing. Each situation is different. Some are the blame of the woman and some are the blame of the man. In my particular situation, this guy does have issues and he has addmitted it to me himself.

I would gather your snide responses to those who have given a honest response to their experiences, say a lot about yourself as well. Maybe you are attracting all the wrong women because you have some growing up to do. Just a thought.

I would also question whether or not you really treat "women like gold". You are vert quick to jump and point fingers on the opposite sex, which really tells me that you really don't treat women all that well to begin with.

I am happy to see that you were open to the honest and open repsonses the women here have given you (note intended sarcasm).

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 11:08pm

9 out of 10 are the woman's fault?? Are you serious??

When most relationsips fail, the ownership of the failure is 50/50. I say this because if people were more honest with themselves from the beginning, they would acknowledge that value systems are incompatible or the way the other person behaves in public is not acceptable to them or the way the other person treats them is not acceptable, but believe that as time passes, the other person will change.

You have done a great job of making sweeping generalizations about women and have drawn some very specific conclusions based on those generalizations. It may be time to turn that critical eye to yourself. So often, when we are so very busy pointing out the flaws in others, it is because we fear the flaws within ourselves.

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Registered: 06-25-2006
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 11:15pm

Sorry that you have so much hatred for men who respect women.

Then women wonder why they can't find a good man. Sheesh.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 11:27pm
You have not shown any respect to the women who have answered your thread. You get what you ask for... Talk about "Sheesh".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 12:50am

It sounds like you've run across some bad apples. I can empathize...I've had my share of liars and emotional cripples, etc. But I'm not going to go around saying "men" are bad, or "men" are this or that, because being angry at the opposite gender isn't going to help me find a good guy. Good women will be able to feel that anger emanating from you, and won't want to date you. So whatever it takes for you to be able to put that anger aside, and/or not generalize it, you need to do before you can be in a relationship with an emotionally healthy woman.

Do keep in mind, however, that age and emotional health are not at all related. There are young women who are emotionally healthy, and older women who aren't, and just about every permutation in between. So it's not a matter of "growing up", it's a matter of becoming emotionally healthy, IMO.

And who the heck cares about shoes???? I'm afraid to ask where you got that piece of information!!!

Sheri

Sheri

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