What would you choose?

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What would you choose?
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:00am

If you were in a relationship, and you had to choose between one of these two options, which one would you choose?

A) A man who satisfies you emotionally in every aspect possible. He treats you like a woman should be treated and you never doubt his love for you. But on the other hand, your are not satisfied with your sex life with him at all.

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B) A man who satisfies you sexually in every aspect possible. It is the best sex you have ever had in your life. But on the other hand, he doesn't satisfy you emotionally and isn't as sweet or caring as you would like him to be. He isn't romantic and sometimes can be distant with you.

Would you choose to be satisfied emotionally even if you have to sacrifice your sex life for it? Or would you sacrifice your feelings for a great sex life?

Just curious...

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:37am

I wouldn't choose. I've had the first scenario- a great relationship filled with emotional support. He was my best friend, he treated me wonderfully, but within a few months our sex life was zilch. After 4 years of having a passionless relationship I realized I couldn't bear to enter into a sexless marriage and needed to be with someone with whom I had a stronger sexual attraction to. (and trust me, we worked at that aspect of our relationship, i certainly didn't walk away without really trying).

On that note- I would never stay with anyone who didn't treat me with respect and wasn't there to fulfill my emotional needs, even if the sex was great.

So, that's my thoughts. I never think of things in black and white and will never settle for something that isn't right for me. Not that I have extremely high standards or am high maintenance at all- I just think a real relationship needs balance in all aspects and no woman (or man) should have to feel lonely -be it in the bedroom or elsewhere in the relationship.

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:04pm
Normally, I would say I would not settle for both, but since I have to choose....... I would pick the man who was emotionally good to me. I have had both situations and nothing makes you feel like crap or makes you feel more insecure than a man that isn't there for you or makes you feee like you're not worth being with them, even if the sex if great!!!
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:17pm

If you were in a relationship, and you had to choose between one of these two options, which one would you choose?

"Love knows hidden paths."~~German Proverb

Jenny

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:18pm

I wouldn't settle for either one.

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:09pm
Hi. I would have to pick Bachellor A. Sexual relations could always be worked on. Say, he's not too adventurous, you can introduce one thing at a time in the bedroom. Emotional support is very important. A connection is what holds a relationship together, not great sex.

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:35pm
Looks like I'm the only one who would keep both. LOL


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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:09pm

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 5:55pm

Both is obviously the most desirable, but I'm guessing that's not what you were looking for.


If I had to choose, I'd say B.

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:51pm

I'll take one of each! Great sex with one and then come home to the emotional guy. Haha!

Seriously, though, I think I'd rather be alone.

Cat

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:54pm
I would choose to be emotionally satisfied. Iri

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