What Would You Do...for 12 years???

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Registered: 05-19-2003
What Would You Do...for 12 years???
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 2:32pm

So I'm stealing this topic from another relationship board.

If you visited a psychic (pretend you believe in such things, ok?) and she told you that the love of your life, The One you are destined to be with, the one who is your ideal partner and soulmate will indeed come into your life....in exactly 12 years. And no one you will come across beforehand and date with work out until you meet that One true love, what would you do?

Would you continue dating, just for the fun of it knowing that it would be short-term and eventually end?

Or would you hold out and not waste anyone's time, since no one else will compare and wait for your true love to come into your life.

It's 12 years, what will you do with that time, dating-wise?

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 2:58pm

well if someone told me that in 10 years i'd meet the love of my life, i'd be fine with that, I'd be HAPPY to know it was going to happen. But this would have to be 100% guarantee, absolutely going to happen to type deal-and unfortunately no one knows this. I know the point of your post is, what if...? but i guess i dont believe in psychics...IF i did and IF that's how things were going to happen, I imagine i'd go on with my regular life...i'd probably still date here and there, but it might be difficult knowing they werent the one i'd end up with.

I have thought about this and again, i'd love to know when or if i'm going to meet the one...but that's life...i will never know this until that day does or doenst come.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 3:01pm
In those twelve years I will date a lot of girls, all kinds of girls, just for the fun, for the experience. Actually that is an interesting question; are you trying to tell us to have faith?
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 3:06pm

"...are you trying to tell us to have faith?"

Not at all. I think what the post gets at it how many people are willing to just date, for the fun of it, knowing it will ultimately go nowhere. So many people claim to not date if there is no real future, yet if you knew what the future would hold, would they then then do things differently. That's my guess. Thought it was interesting.

I know I'd keep doing the same thing; date for the fun of it. But I'm big on experiences. I'd rather have many and enjoy them, then not at all.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 6:01pm
I would just wait and not date because to me dating is work. I don't see the point in getting to know someone if you know from the start that person is not going to remain in your life. I have very deep emotions and it is better that they are not stirred by people just passing through my life. Iri
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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 8:22pm

Ugh! I hate dating...lol. This would be like a dream come true for me because I wouldn't be wondering, "will I meet the love of my life?". Instead I would just keep moving forward, improving on my career and having a blast with friends. I guess I might be more likely to 'live it up' and truly savor singledom. Although I enjoy being single now, I do have fleeting worries about IF I'll ever meet 'him'.

I wish I was the type to love dating, who could go out with 4 new people a month and think nothing of it. Dating is torture to me and I don't find it fun. Of course if it's a guy I'm interested in and like, then it's intriguing and a good stressful.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 10:29pm
I would continue to live my life as I normally would. I believe that some people do have the gift of being psychic. I also believe there are three times as many people who are fakes and take advantage of people who want answers. So if I were told it would take ten more years, I would be a little disappointed but then realize that I also have the power to make things happen for myself. I also feel that we learn things from those we date and recieve a lot of valuable lessons. So even if they are not meant to be our soulmates, we can still grow as individuals from those short loves that did not last.