What's for dinner?

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Registered: 04-13-2007
What's for dinner?
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Wed, 11-21-2012 - 8:45pm

Happy Thanksgiving to Everyone.

With all this talk of good eating around me, a question came to mind... ladies, if a guy you had just started dating, invited you to his place so he could make you dinner, and he cooked something really basic like Hambuger Helper, how would you feel about that? and how about if the situation were flipped, he was coming over, or for the guys, if you were going to her place for the first dinner, would that be any different, the meal was that simple...

It came to mind only because i am culinary challenged, and it seems a man that cooks is all the rage these days...

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 9:25am

I absolutely love to cook, and do it all the time.  But I still would totally appreciate a guy who tried to cook for me, even it was something simple!  It's the effort that counts.  And next time, I would suggest that we cook something together, so that I could help and offer to show him things if he wanted. 

 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 12:36pm
Oh yes, the cleaning is definitely important! If I go to a guy's place and he has cooked for me, cleanliness is the first thing I look for. It could be the best gourmet meal I've ever eaten, but if his kitchen isn't clean, I'll wonder what other unexpected treats are inside, and what side effects I'll have the next day!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 10:47am

I think if you're really a terrible cook it would probably be better to be honest & order some kind of takeout.  I think for women it's nice to date a guy who cooks just because it's always assumed that women should do the cooking for their man and it's nice to get treated--but I wouldn't mind getting taken out to dinner either.  I can cook ok (being a mother, I didn't have much of a choice) but I don't really enjoy it--I prefer baking.  But if a guy did cook hamburger helper, I might be laughing inside, but I'd eat it & tell him it was great.  I would appreciate the effort.  And you could always make a salad (no one can ruin that) and buy a nice dessert and some good bread.  And make sure to clean up & set the table.  It seems kind of simple minded to say this, but some guys will invite a girl over & their house looks like they haven't cleaned in a month.

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Registered: 04-13-2007
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 7:47am

Thanks for the replies.. it is an issue that can be looked at differently depending on the person.

 @CFK, I am a guy, but for me this just a hypothetical for now. I appreciate the offer of the receipies, but believe me, i'm a lost cause in the kitchen. I can cook if really pressed, but anything other than rice or hambuger helper requires hours of work, every pot & dish in the kitchen and usually has a burn or cut as side effect. All thumbs :-D

@shywon, I was orginally thinking of this as a show of effort.. that even though the guy can't cook, he decides to put in the effort and cook the one thing he can. i think of it as a way to show he cares. but when i thought of it flipped, if i was the one invited to her place and she had the same meal, i may feel a little bit the same way you did...different standards?? but as for the last point, i think if anyone invites you to their house, they are definately trying to push the relationship to a another level. whether that means physical or or not.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 10:10pm
Hmmm...if a guy invited me to his house for dinner, saying he was cooking, and it was hamburger helper I'd probably prefer that he would have chosen something different for the date. Everybody has weaknesses. Admitting them is okay. If he couldn't cook, but invited me over saying he was cooking, I'd probably think he just wanted to get me alone in his house.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 10:07pm

I'd try to be gracious and tell him it's the best hamburger helper I've ever eaten.  If the relationship progresses, I might show him a few tips in the kitchen somewhere down the road. 

I don't remember if you're a guy or not, if this is a hypothetical or you will soon be cooking for someone, but let me know if you need a couple of good, simple recipes.