what's a guy to do???

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
what's a guy to do???
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 1:52pm

I have been posting on iVillage for a couple of weeks now and I have enjoyed the different characters and personalities I have come across. Very entertaining and informative.

Here's my situation: I have become intrigued by one female member. I have enjoyed her comments both to me and to others. She is clearly an intelligent and thoughtful woman, and she has a charming sense of humor, which frequently brings a smile to my face. We have also exchanged e-mails. Simply stated, I like her attitude. She seems sweet and spunky. I mean that is the best way. :)

Here's my question: How do I proceed? I am concerned I may be projecting on to her. (Not like a movie or slide show; that would be silly. I mean in a pychological sense.)

Here are my proposed options: 1) Play it completely cool and pretend I don't even remember her. 2) Express my desire to learn more about her. 3) Ask for her ring size and hit the stores. 4) Pick-out a china pattern. (Those last two were jokes - everyone relax!)

I suspect there may be one or two options I have not considered. Heck, that is why I am asking. Let me have it ladies; I can take it. (I think!)

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 2:20pm

Hi there, nice to "see" you on this board! I've been on Ivillage a long time, and I know two couples who are married with a child who met through message boards here! I also know a 3rd couple who met on the online dating board and have just started seeing each other long-distance (the other 2 couples were also long-distance at first).

That said, if the two of you are long-distance, that involves some real, difficult challenges so she may not be up for it even if she does feel a connection.

But why not go for option #2 and see what happens?

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 2:49pm
It seems to me you have nothing to lose by simply asking to get to know her better. Clearly she's been open to the idea so far, so why not see where it goes?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 3:50pm

Just keep emailing her and push the envelope a little bit - tell her you enjoy your chats with her and then see where it goes from there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 6:21pm

Doooo It!!

Thats all I got. haha! But I've read about other folks that have met on IV so anything is possible.

Good luck,

Rubyshoes

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 6:34pm
Pretending you don't remember her = pathetic juvenile game-playing. I vote for #2. Iri
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 7:54pm

Several years ago when I first came to iVillage, a guy randomly emailed me about something I had posted.