What's the secret?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
What's the secret?
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 11:59am

Why is it, when I talk to my ex girlfriends, they never tell me their current dating status. Are they ashamed of being single, I assumed they are.
One of my friends is pregnant and for some reason she does not want me to know the name of the father. It can't be a friend of mine she does not know any of them.

Why so secretive?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:07pm
Maybe because you're an ex? They don't think it's any of your business?


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2005
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:15pm

Why is the name of the child's father relevant to you?

I might not necessarily go babbling to everyone I know the father of my child especially if he and I are not a couple anymore.

Smile,

Deirdre

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2006
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:21pm

Because you're an ex and it's none of your business anymore.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:39pm
Personally, when I keep a secret, I'm protecting something. Whether that be my heart, my pride . . . just think about things you've kept private and why: there's your answer.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:50pm

If I might ask? Why exactly would you want to know?
I wish the best for those in my past . . .but details? Why would I care unless they had a good and valid reason for telling me?

Keep your eyes forward, not behind you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:58pm
How do you know she is single if she doesn't tell you she is or isn't in a relationship? You just assume? Being single is nothing to be ashamed about. You are an ex (for a reason)
and its none of your business.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 10:51pm
Thank you for an intelligent answer
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Registered: 10-31-2006
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 2:00am

If it's more than one ex, I'd say they're trying to avoid hearing you bash their dates, tastes, choices, or fathers of their babies.

One ex might be ashamed, but more than one? Seems odd. You might not mean it, but it's possible you come off as judgmental and they don't want to go there.